New, in pain and pregnant
New, in pain and pregnant seabreezy1010: Hi....I am new here, so please bear with me. Well here is my story. I am 24. I have been with my husband for a little over 7 years. We were married for 2 1/2. Together we have a 3 yr. old daughter. 3 weeks ago, my husband told me that he had cheated on me. Then he told me that the girl he cheated with was pregnant with his baby. I was devestated. I moved in with my mom that night. A few days later I decided to go to the doctor to get tested because he had unprotected sex. At the doctors office they found out that I am in fact pregnant as well. This was a blow, because we had been trying, unsuccessfully, for 2 yrs to get pregnant. Now I am pregnant. I told my husband, and a day later he begged me to stay with him and to try to work it out. After much consideration, I agreed. The first few days were filled with romance, and talking like we havent talked in years. It seemed great. A few nights later, he spent a long time online, and was recieving mulitple phone calls. I was suspicious, so I went onto Yahoo messanger. He had a conversation with the girl he cheated on me with. It was sexually graphic, and indicated that they were planning on meeting. I kicked him out again, immediately. Now my daughter and i are getting ready to move out. I have had a rough couple of weeks in my pregnancy, and I am dying inside. he is with this girl, and it is so painful, I cannot tell you. I am consumed with thoughts of them, and I even find myself looking at his email and reading their conversations. This is crazy and makes me crazy, but I cannot stop. I am so heart broken, and so sad, I just do not know what to do. i am hoping this site will help me, but I am not sure anymore.
flyaway: Seabreezy.....OMG girl! I'm sooooo sorry that this is painful for you instead of a joyous occasion. Yes, I think you find a huge amount of support for you here at this site, you have come to the right place for any and all kinds of questions, ventings, or just plain ramblings you may have.
Welcome. I'm sorry, but you ARE welcome here.
First piece of advice: [glow=red,2,300"> Don't leave the house![/glow">
If you kicked him out, I think you should try to hold on to the place for some stability for you and your daughter, if you can.....fill us in on more detail, and I'm sure you'll get alot of helpful advice here.
Be strong, and know we are here for you! :)
WhiskeyGirl: Welcome Seabreazy....I am so sorry :'(
I know how hurt you are right now....my ex did the same thing to me with his ex girlfriend in my first pregnancy....(actually he did it in the second one too) and same thing when I caught him it was all "oh I'm so sorry, it'll never happen again, give me another chance, blah, blah, blah...I fell for it...and once again caught him sneaking off with the whore. Why? I don't get it.....why do they do that? Just leave....wasn't it enough to hurt us once..they want to do it repeatedly?
Anyway, girl...I am so sorry...I have totally been where you are.....and you did they right thing by kicking his sorry ass out....mine never changed...I took him back again and again....we now have 3 kids...he left me right after our youngest was born.....a leopard doesn't change his spots.
I don't have much advise...just know that you are not alone...and that it does get better. I am happier than I ever was with him, my girls are all happy and well adjusted, I know now that it was for the best....but I do remember the pain.
It gets better...keep posting...
Again, welcome to ojar :)
mikelr11: i am so sorry. please know that we are all here for you 24/7. remember that now is when you need friends and family and you should not be afraid to run to them for support also. God bless you and you are in all of our prayers
alonewith2: Take out the part of the OW being pregnant, and that's where I once was, too. I can totally relate to what you are going through. I'm 3 years removed from those first few days, but I can still remember what it was like. If you need someone to talk to, don't hesitate!