to be or not to be... alonewith2: The STBX just called to say that he has a mandatory work night tomorrow and wants to know if I can keep our daughter because he doesn't have a babysitter.
Normally I wouldn't have a problem, but I still have fresh on my mind how he backed out of our agreement this past weekend. He said he'd watch the kids so I could go out for New Year's Eve, but then he changed his mind when he got the offer for his band to play......
I so want to be a b*tch and say, "h*ll, no!" But that's not me.....but should it be. Why should I keep bending to meet his every need.....when it's convenient for him? He knows this is his weekend.....so he should have a back up plan in case he needs someone to watch her. Right? Doesn't that just naturally come with the responsibility of having her?
To be or not to be......????!!!!
Re: to be or not to be... jadedangel: [color=navy"> I think it depends on whether or not ... it's going to hurt your daughter or not. Yes .. he should have the back up plan ... sadly it is probably you. Dip shit is all we gotta say ... A$$hat ... all of them.
I say be a total bitch if your daughter will be fine ... Do not bend for him .. Don't do a damn thing for him. [/color">
Re: to be or not to be... alonewith2: It's going to hurt her to not go to her dad's. She looks forward to these weekends with him. He has his neice who is willing to baby sit at her house, but he wants her to babysit at his house so that he can get her to stay there so he can sleep all the next day (he works 3rd shift)....
I don't want my daughter to go if her dad is just going to sleep all day and ignore her, but I also don't feel it should always be my responsibility to take her when these things "pop" up. He chose 3rd shift knowing that he would have to work on some of his weekends....he could have worked 2nd shift.....but that didn't meet his "social life" needs.....
And someday, I may meet someone special that I will want to spend my weekends "off" with.....and if I keep giving in and allow him to get away with not having a back up plan, then I will be forced to constantly break my own plans.....Of course right now, that's not a problem since I don't have anyone....or any plans, but what if I did? He didn't even ask if I had plans. He just assumed I didn't. Maybe that's what hurts......who knows?!!!
Re: to be or not to be... alonewith2: Well, since I didn't call him back, he decided to come over. Yep, walked right through the door like he still lived here......@sshat!
I told him that I would watch Riley tomorrow night, but he needed to come up with some sort of back up plan because it wasn't fair to me.....
Then he had the nerve to ask me for some things that were totally inappropriate!!!! UGH! He makes my skin crawl!!!
Re: to be or not to be... brokenbaby: UGH, my stbxh walks right in too. I changed the locks and boy was he pssd! Didn't respect me then, doesn't respect me now....
