seeing/hearing about the ex through mutual friends star100: Hi there,
I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice on something...I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago when he cheated on me. He then got together with her... I knew something had been wrong for a while but I was still surprisingly gutted.
The problem is, we've got a lot of mutual (close) friends, and I'm finding that difficult. I've managed not to see him yet, but I'm going to have to at a do soon and then may end up seeing him every couple of weeks or so.
I'm not sure whether to take the line of ignoring him, being friendly but short or totally forgiving him and allowing us to get on as friends so that there is no longer the acrimony.
I know I'm better off without him as he was a rubbish boyfriend and I allowed my confidence drop a lot when I was with him. But, I still don't feel great about it and I wish he was out of my life completely so I could forget about him and not be reminded of it all, or feel like I've got something to prove when I see him!
Any advice welcome. Cheers... and enjoy the weekend.
Re: seeing/hearing about the ex through mutual friends ajw: i'd stop all contact with him.....you may have mutual friends but you can still manage not to see him......you need to do whatever it takes to get over him,if thats no-contact then do it......
Re: seeing/hearing about the ex through mutual friends Rotteninphoenix: humm....
i would look at it like this, just like the army, you where brought down to zero to be built back up to something better!
make him fear you the next time you meet, i know it will be very hard, but i am positive he will be feeling the same way....
why should YOU have to let your friends go because of this jerk... prove to him you are strong and a better person... we all know you are!!!!!
play some mental games with him.. who knows it might be fun..lol....
Re: seeing/hearing about the ex through mutual friends smokin: do like i did. i told all mutual friends, that i didnt want to hear about the ho, or nothing........
and remember he cheated on you, so why would you want to be friends with someone like that? friends dont treat friends like this..
just my .00000000001/2 cent worth........
GTM
Re: seeing/hearing about the ex through mutual friends sudboy: [quote author=GOOSETAPE MAN link=topic=24080.msg224973#msg224973 date=1137259790">
do like i did. i told all mutual friends, that i didnt want to hear about the ho, or nothing........
and remember he cheated on you, so why would you want to be friends with someone like that? friends dont treat friends like this..
just my .00000000001/2 cent worth........
GTM
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What Goose said. Despite the fact that I share mutual friends with my cheating EX who tell me "Sudboy, we're on YOUR side in this mess" my statement remains constant: I don't want my friends to choose sides in the whole mess. It ain't fair to my friends, it ain't fair to me, and it ain't fair to my EX.
That said, the process of polarization tends to be, well, inevitable. People *do* pick sides when they're party to a separating couple, no matter what they may say. Keep your chin up.
Sudboy
P.S. Yeah I know that ain't ain't a word.
