Pause for consideration? Sooty: My wife told me she was unhappy with our marriage after 2.5 years. Apparently she decided in 1 day (after her exbf called) that she was unhappy all of it. Anyways, long story short it's been 5 weeks of her calling him everynight, telling him she loves him, etc. I've had to listen to every midnight drunken phone call.
Yesterday I finally talked her into couples therapy, she asked me to take her to vegas for the weekend (of course I told her she must leave her phone behind to work on us). I'm not sure If I should take her or not.
Then last night I found love letters, and a "10 things I love about you" that weren't meant for me. I even found an email to a friend that said "I feel like I've checked out of this relationship". She even told another friend that "I think we might try to work it out"
I started the paperwork last week and filed. 4 weeks of listening to her everynight talk to him was just getting too much. Today she countered. Do I take pause for consideration of yesterday's events? Or is she playing a game with me. She has no job, and no where to live close to him, so I'm not sure if she is trying to stretch out for room/board.
Re: Pause for consideration? jadedangel: [color=navy"> It sounds like a game to me. She is trying to butter you up for something better ... she has to know she has no where to go ..and that you are her stability.
I would advise you to proceed ... I wouldn't take the trip to Vegas ... it sounds like your ready to push things forward if this is really how it is going to be -- and it sounds like she is just buying time. You can't tell me ... that after 4 weeks ... of talking to him and professing love to him every night .. she suddenly realized she was wrong (didn't apologize -- but wants to go to Vegas?) ..... Sorry but I say .. don't be played the fool ....
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Re: Pause for consideration? Peaceandquiet: I have to agree with Jaded on this, sounds to me like she is working you over so that she can get things her way. Now is the time for you to stand up and tell her NO. If she is really interested in working things out with you then she would do it in the home not in Vegas. Sounds to me like she has another purpose for going to Vegas. Start taking notes on the phone calls and what she is saying, get copies of cell phone bills. Write down everything, because if she has no job she is going to come after you for everything, have the proper amunition to fight back with. You don't deserve to get treated like that. Hell nobody does!
Re: Pause for consideration? Sooty: Thanks Jaded.
I guess for all this time, I've been asked by her family and friends (who she doesn't talk to anymore) to be patient and see if she comes around. I filed to get things moving and to let her know that I will not be waiting on her like I did the last time (she did this before we were married, and after 3 mos she decided she did want to marry me).
Peace -
I heard her speaking with the xBF the previous evening about him going, but when I approached her, she claimed he was going to the following weekend.
I've been making notes on when I've tried to talk to her, and I have copies of the cell phone records. I also have copied the "love letters" i find around the house.
Thank you.
Re: Pause for consideration? jadedangel: [quote author=Sooty link=topic=24530.msg230434#msg230434 date=1138119170">
I will not be waiting on her like I did the last time (she did this before we were married, and after 3 mos she decided she did want to marry me).
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[color=navy"> That right there ... should tell you how things will work out. She will come back for a time ... but this will happen again --- I vote don't wait for her to pull you around like you are a toy with a string attached...
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