Don't like my attitude towards men dyane: I'm pushing towards the one year anniversary of my divorce and the pain is still as great if not greater than it was initially. However what really bothers me lately is my inabilty to trust men. Not just in a dating situation but in ANY situation. I had a HORRIBLE relationship with my father and my brother and I were never close either. My ex husband was the first man I really really trusted and believed in but when I needed him the most he ran like the wind. Of course I KNOW not all men are untrustworthy and I don't want to portray that image to my 9 year old daughter. But even at work or in social settings I find myself being very cynical towards any man. My voice is always sarcastic IF I even bother to respond to them at all. My ex really did a number on me. He talked a good talk but that was ALL it was. He was nothing but a momma's boy with no spine. SHe never really wanted him to marry anyway because she wanted him all to herself and when things went sour between us, instead of suggesting we seek counseling to work on it, she came riding in with her checkbook and the divorce attorney that SHE used 10 years ago and that spineless wimp went along with it. Now lately he calls and wants to talk but I don't see the point in adding more pain to my life. Although I miss him.....even though I don't know WHY.....I can't go back there again. I just want to heal and maybe one day date again.
Re: Don't like my attitude towards men BambiC: Dyane,
It sounds like you have some anger issues to deal with regarding the primary men in your life. I'm going to a group called DivorceCare (it's all over the country, maybe there's one near you) and last night our topic was anger. One thing that seemed pretty clear is that if you don't deal with it you'll find it rearing its ugly head at other times or places in your life. Don't let three men set your opinion of all men...I'm sure there are good ones out there ::)
BambiC:)
Re: Don't like my attitude towards men JNA: Yup...
Burn me once shame on you
Burn me twice shame on me
I am still recovering from trust issues left from what my ex did...
Some things can change in ways you don't want to change
Sometimes can make you a totally different person than you were
Just take one day at a time and you will get there
All of'em aren't bad as you stated...
JNA
Re: Don't like my attitude towards men torturedgenius: [color=purple"> Wow....I could totally like copy and paste your post and just sign my name to it...[/color">
Re: Don't like my attitude towards men TAKEN4RIDE: Sounds like you still have strong feelings for him!
why noy remain seperated.... and give counseling a try? :-\
I just feel that counseling should be mandatory when there are children involved......Just my opinion!
I wish you luck for future relationships,i't may take a while but I am sure one day you will trust men again. we are all not lyers, spineles, mommas boys!
