Re: How often do you see one another when seperated? alonewith2: Your goal is to get back together, but both of you need space, right? What are you both comfortable with? I don't think we can give you a magic number that will work for you....it's something the two of you need to decide. I think you should definitely talk atleast once a week (whether over the phone or in person or email). Then you should atleast have two dates a month where you go out and enjoy yourself with your daughter. A family outing so to speak. Then atleast one date for the two of you to enjoy each other alone.
Those are just suggestion. It really depends on what works for the two of you and what the issues are that you are trying to deal with.
How often do you see one another when seperated? kathlyn2: I am just wondering what the standard protocal for seeing each other during seperation. My ex and I are talking in terms of wanting to be together but after a year of back and forth we both needed a break. We have a three year old so we see each other when exchanging our daughter, but how often do we see each other? Should we be seeing each other once a week alone? I dont know how to proceed. He said we needed space to clear our heads, but that our goal is to be together.
Re: How often do you see one another when seperated? audi_driver: I have seen my wife five times since being seperated on December 4th.
Once to pick up my daughter from her job.
Once to get my hair cut and we went out to dinner.
Once to go to counseling
Once at court...
Once to pick my daughter up on a Friday.
Other than that, I know she goes to the diner when i meet her parents to pick up and drop off Nicole. My daughter told me.
Re: How often do you see one another when seperated? kathlyn2: Are you trying to reconcile? That is our goal.
Re: How often do you see one another when seperated? jillieb44: I'm not trying to reconcile.
I see my ex MAYBE at pick up/drop offs. Usually the kids go on their own. Our contact is better via e-mail, as the ex is a poor communicator.
If you're trying to reconcile then I'd think at least a few times a month you should have a 'date.' Get a babysitter and get out alone.
Jillie
