Re: wife & husband both on Ojar PiscesGoddess: Blazin took the words right out of my mouth.. You two seem to have a tremendous amount of anger towards one another and the good people of ojar are here to support not be mediators. As blazin said I ask that you both be respectful and also not try to drag other people into your threads that you know are going to tick the other one off.
crushedman- you are the exception as you said..Im glad you and your g/f worked things out..but this couple needs alot of help as both of their previous posts have pointed out.
The last thing ojar needs is another division or war... ::) I know that there are many other different support groups out there..perhaps one of you could move..I know I wouldnt want to be on the same board as my stbx..just more ugliness and poison to be spread that way.
I hope you two can come to some sort of amiacable place..you have 4 children to think of..that need you both.
best wishes,
Pisces
wife & husband both on Ojar 2ghp: So I told my wife I use an online support group. I even shared some of your comments and postings with her ;). I never shared with her it was OJAR that I was using. Did I mention how intelligent my wife is? Yes, she put 2 and 2 together and found OJAR. (never had a name or URL)
I don't know what will come of this, but I hope that we can continue to get support and it doesn't turn into a fight zone for us.
It’s amazing to read how she posts and how she interprets things. As probably she feels the same towards me.
I do need to clarify a couple things.
1. My sexual problem is highly related to my somewhat unordinary sex drive. My last actual porn was 1997, girls gone wild in 2000, howard stern, and radio talk show girls since (mixed in with fantasy). It’s a fantasy. I feel it is effecting my relationship with god and I feel it is effecting my current situation so I want it to stop, why because I want my marriage to work. (I know that sounds to ez, its not. It’s hard talking about it to strangers, it’s hard sitting through intakes, but I will survive)
2. Abuse: I don't think what I did was right. I do know that I control my anger and keep it on the inside. It builds and builds and builds, until I let it out with a spanking and a slap. I was wrong. I have told my wife I will not do those things again. "I am sorry that I ever did those things to you".
3. I still feel were 2 good hearted people. I shall one day be judged by a higher power for my actions during this life. I'll try to lead a straight life, I will pray for the courage to change the things I can, and to accept those that I cannot. (I somewhat stole that saying from my wife, but it is a good one) Also for the wisdom to know the difference between the two.
My confession:
I new she was trying to find OJAR. I had Michael delete 2goodheartedpeople since I wanted my privacy. I notice most of the posts are still out there. I re-opened as 2ghp since that is what most of you call me anyway.
I am not sure how your current situation is going, but I hope that your support to my wife and I helps you in someway.
Thanks,
2ghp
Re: wife & husband both on Ojar 2ghp: That's not good news. :-\
Re: wife & husband both on Ojar ajw: just see it as a giant group therapy session....lol
we all know that the final goal for you 2 is to stay together,you've both said you wanted that.
they always say,theres 3 versions of the truth,theres your side,theres her side,and then there's the truth which falls somewhere in between.
Re: wife & husband both on Ojar admin: Having a couple on the one site both seeking support never works.
Eventually, the whole thing explodes!
I would highly recommend that one of you find an alternate place for support.
The one that chooses to remain should start with a fresh profile that is masked.
-- Michael.
