Sending this week.... bamboo: D-
I know you have been hoping for a reconciliation recently, but I hope you see now that it is not possible. All of a sudden coming back into my life as if nothing happened was definitely the wrong way to try and work things out. We can never pick up where we left off before all the lying, deception, and cheating began. I needed things from you, and you still cannot see that. I needed the truth, I needed to see changes in you. Empty promises don’t mean much when you are trying to rebuild some sort of trust level. You tell me you want to work things out, you show up at my apartment, you call me constantly; all while still living with the woman you left me for. How do you expect me to take you seriously? You now see that the grass wasn’t greener….. but it’s too late.
At our most recent meeting I felt nothing for you. No love, no emotion at all when I saw you. I no longer love you D. I know you were hoping for a different answer, but I can’t lie to myself and go back to living that old life. I don’t miss many things about that life anymore. I have moved on. I am building my own life now and I am happy. I miss having a husband, but I don’t miss you.
I know why you keep calling me. You want me to make everything better in your life. You want me to help you find a job, get your finances figured out, help you with getting your life on track, bail you out when you got arrested. I don’t know how many times I have to tell you that I cannot help. It is no longer my place to help you and its not my problem any more. Why don’t you ask Kathy to help you? She took my place in your life, so why can’t she help you with all this?
Don’t call me the next time you need a ride somewhere because you are too drunk to drive, or when you need someone to come pick you up in jail, or when you don’t have money to make your truck payments. I no longer care about what is going on in your life, and I no longer want you to care about mine. Just please give me this divorce. Don’t contest it. If you want to end things right between us, just walk away and don’t fight me. You brought all this on yourself and its time to face the music. Stop hiding behind this illusion that I am going to help you and that everything will get better between us.
Here is the last of your things from my storage unit. I have gone through everything and what I don’t want is here. Do what you want with all the wedding stuff and all our photos. I don’t want them anymore. I have certain memories of how our life was before all this, and that’s all I want to carry with me.
L-
Re:Sending this week.... OldSchool: Hey Jerseygirl,
I hope you find a quick end to your marraige. Your story sounds somewhat similar to mine, except my ex latched on to someone else. I didn't get the phone calls, and the personal apologies. In fact, after our divorce I haven't heard a peep from her, which has helped move on with my life.
I also left her with all the wedding pictures and photos that I didn't want. She wanted the freedom to act single, so she got her gift. I can only hope she doesn't screw up other marraiges along the way.
I just found some similarities with your letter and sympathize with your situation. Good luck to you.
