You're not divorcing your kid! fallenangelcat: I have got to vent this here or else I'm gonna explode on the stbx. He is so p***ing me off right now! He works swing shift (3p.m. -12p.m.) and our daughter goes to school during the day. She doesn't get home until after he leaves for work so she doesn't see him hardly at all during the week, even though we all still live together.
Tomorrow he leaves for 4 days on TDY and he's off today. It's now 10a.m. and he's still sleeping because he was up until almost 3a.m. f**king around on the computer with his cybersex s**t!! I went downstairs for some more coffee and told him (nicely - even though I didn't want to be nice) "you need to get up, it's almost 10 and there are things you need to take care of before you leave tomorrow. and you should spend time with ##### today"
Is he up? NO! He just went back to sleep.
My daughter asked me for something to eat a few minutes ago and I told her "why don't you ask daddy to fix you something?" and she told me cause he's sleeping and he doesn't want to wake up. I've been up since 6:30 with her, even though I didn't get much sleep. She's not going to school today (it's preschool) so he could spend some time with her.
I'm getting tired of this crap! Even when he's home I'm the one who has to do everything for her...not that I mind doing stuff for my daughter, but I'm getting sick of him not acting like a parent too!!!
And get this. She was downstairs playing and asked him if she could have chocolate milk. He told her yes, but made her come upstairs to ask me to fix it! Hello?!?!
And how do you explain to a 4-yr-old that she can't have the My Little Pony birthday party that she wants because daddy spent all the extra money taking his girlfriend out? I would need to order the stuff now in time for her birthday party and we barely have enough money for gas & groceries - and yesterday was payday! (He makes serious bank over here too. Sad.)
I think I need to get out of the house right now...go get my hair cut, whatever, or else I may just explode on him. >:( >:(
Re:You're not divorcing your kid! Lumpy: Just curious as to what kinda dad he was before the divorce talks started between you two. I get the impression from your post that he's somewhat self involved. The cyber sex thing sounds like pure escapism. I don't understand why anyone would rather play footsies with faceless strangers as opposed to spending time with their kids. Can totally relate to your frustration. My stbx spends hours in chat rooms while the kids are practically begging for her attention. Beginning to wonder if I even know this person anymore.
It's gotten to the point where I'm through aggravating over it. I try to shift my focus away from the seemingly lost cause and give it to my kids. They're the true innocents in all of this. I've actually enjoyed picking up her slack in this department. It brings me closer to them and gives me some of the only joy I'm feeling these days. Give her extra hugs and maybe even that glass of chocolate milk. You know what he's missing even if he remains oblivious to it. Stay sane.
Re:You're not divorcing your kid! fallenangelcat: Hey Lumpy,
Actually before the divorce talks he was much more involved. He's always been a good father, and when he DOES spend time with her he's great. I pretty much forced it today; left the car seat in his car, told him I was going to run errands and get my hair cut, and then left (well after saying good bye to the pop-tart anyway).
And you're right - my spending so much extra time with her has made us just that much closer. I guess that's what p***es me off the most; I know what he's missing and I know he will regret it if he doesn't check himself - and soon!
Side note: I think my forcing it today worked, at least this time. She's outside in the yard wearing his kevlar helmet and chasing him around. I need to get pics of that! LOL
Re:You're not divorcing your kid! Lumpy: Hey fallenangelcat, was glad to hear some positive news. Keep on keepin' on.
