Steaming! mystical_rain: My son, 8 years old, informed me that his father told him that "Chew is good for you" and has vitamins. Mind you, he is talking about chewing tobacco. OMG!!!! I told my son this is absolutely not true, that chew is very bad for you, causes cancer, gum and tooth disease, etc., and I showed him a few of the lesser graphic online pics. of what chew can actually do to your mouth and teeth. I told him that it does not have vitamins, and listed some of the poisons that it does have.
Why would a father tell a son something so blatantly untrue, harmful and just plain stupid???
He also told him that "it's ok to drive with one beer". I'm assuming he means one open container in the car, which is illegal in this state. Maybe he meant it was ok to drink one beer and then drive??? I don't know but it's still sending an EIGHT YEAR OLD the message that it's ok to drink and drive.
All I can do is thank GOD that the kids only spend one over night with him a week and that they are not under his steady influence. They see him from noon on Saturday until 6 pm on Sunday each week.
Re: Steaming! sosad05: I dont know if you can do anything or not. I would definitely DOCUMENT everything. MY XH said/ did alot of nonsense to my children too. He is covered in tattoos of half dressed/naked women and he didnt think it was any problem for my 6-yr old daughter to see those. He also got his nipples pierced during the course of the divorce and thought it was fine to display those too. He would drive around without having the kids seatbelted (age 2 and 6)...the list goes on and on. I documented everything and informed the children's atty of his behaviors...unfortunately, not much was done.
I know this probably isnt great advice but the best you can do is document and prayer when they go with him. Your not going to be able to change him. If things get really bad, maybe you can request supervised or reduced visitation. It certainly isnt appropriate for a child to be driving with someone with an open container.
Hope this help!
