OW's XH, called me on Valentines wendieann: Yep. He called to wish me a Happy Valentine's Day. :o It was great to hear from him. He wants to get together for another visit. As usual, our topic ended up about "them"... ::) He immediately wants "them" taken out of our vocabulary... :-X
Honestly, for him to be around my children, knowing their father ran off with his wife... seems pretty strange... yet, he it doesn't matter to him. He has no children. He says, when he looks at my children, it just pisses him off to know my STBXH just left them...he doesn't understand how any man could do that! :o
I have been to his place 2x in the past 2 months I guess. I have talked a few times with him on the phone. He has played with my kids, took my teen snowmobiling, and even let my son drive his! :o (my STBXH never once let my son drive his snow machine...) So my son was feeling pretty manly!! :D
Where am I going with this? I don't know. But, he is a nice guy and we both can relate. I don't know what will happen when he doesn't want to discuss, "them" anymore.... At least I had someone who knew EXACTLY what I was feeling... ::)
Time will tell. Until then, I enjoy his friendship!
ps. I will becareful, but it is hard going anywhere with so many children, plus when I am still nursing the baby.... :-\
Re: OW's XH, called me on Valentines bluskygrl: Sounds good, you can always use more fiirends.
It is hard to figure out this whole dating with kids thing huh?
Kudos on making it through with so many kids and a nursing baby.
Re: OW's XH, called me on Valentines gulfcoast: Wild, My mother went through this when her and my father seperated..
He ran off with the secretary and her husband came by some times and well...who knows..lol
Re: OW's XH, called me on Valentines Chey: I have to share a story my Financial Advisor told me (take what you will from it ;) )
So...one of his customers, had been married 20 years (they married very young apparantely). He comes to the FA and says "the wife has left me, maxed my cards and taken all my money from my account"...so things are a mess.
Anyway over the following year the guy meets the wife of the OM...they share horror stories...and she tells him after she found out what his wife did to him, she did the same thing to her husband before he got educated enough to do that to her.
So..........it's been 7 years since their spouses left and where are they now? Married for 5 years. To each other.
So...who knows ;)
Re: OW's XH, called me on Valentines wendieann: [quote author=random link=topic=25588.msg245803#msg245803 date=1140485677">
The ones left behind getting together?
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In my opinion, for him to play with my children, knowing his wife, and my husband are together, must be very hard to deal with! Everyday, having to see the OM in my children's eyes... Knowing they are playing house with my babies.. :( Meanwhile the OW never had children, so this new friend of mine, has an extra pain jabbed in him...
I give him so much credit for being so nice to me, and picking me up when I am sad...
Could I personally be able to deal with children from my husbands affair? I don't think so... it would be pretty tough! ???
Time will tell what happens... Until then, I am really enjoying our friendship. This weekend he is introducing me to 17 couples, and we are heading away for the night! A social life for me, as strange as it is... I am becoming friends with the OW's old life.... :o
