they're still together

they're still together minneapolis: I haven't posted here in a long time.  I've really just been "over it".  The ex left 16 months ago (I guess my divorce is a toddler now) and our divorce has been final for 9 months.  I don't think of him every day and I honestly believe my life is much better than it ever was when I was with him (and we had a happy marriage...well at least I thought it was).

Anyway, he left me for another woman in December of 2004.  Everyone said it wouldn't last.  Dr. Phil says that relationships that start via infideltiy (she was married too) don't last.  I just heard this morning that they are still together.  Why does it bug me? 

I really don't care about him anymore but I guess it brings back all of the feelings of inadequacy that I initially felt.  It wasn't that our marriage didn't work (it did), it wasn't that we fought all the time (we didn't) , it wasn't that he beat me (he didn't)...in the end I just wasn't good enough.  Someone better came along. 

Just feeling sad I guess.  Worthless.  Like I'll never be good enough.

Ugh.  I hate this.
Re: they're still together Lumpy:   Try and look at it this way Minn, perhaps neither of them has had the opportunity to cheat on the other yet. Or maybe they have but it hasn't come to light yet. 
Re: they're still together cab1000: My self confidence is shot too. 

Wishing it was different here too.

~cab
Re: they're still together hurtnconfused: ((hugs))
Re: they're still together twine: don't ever let yourself believe that he TRADED UP, thats not the case. People who do this to the ones they love are the insecure ones who don't know what the hell they want.  In the end i am sure he will regret the choices he has made and you will move on and meet someone who will treat you like you should be treated.