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divorce papers hr: My stbx just called and asked me to send a copy of our divorce papers with his mom. I really wanted out of the marriage, but I am so hurt. Every time the word divorce or papers comes up I loose it. This is so hard. I spent the last 13 years loving and taking care of this person and he is being so non shilant about the whole thing. It is like he is made of ice. I wish this didn't hurt so bad.  I have tried so hard to stay positive and look at the good coming out of this, but sometimes it is just not enough to get through. I don't want to miss him, I don't want to look at things and be reminded of him, but I can't help it. He can turn things off so easily, I want to be able to do that. I hate that I have a heart, and I hate that I gave it to him to break.  This is the first time I have cried in 8 days. I need a hug. Thanks for listening.
Re: divorce papers lodaca: hr,
Sorry that you are going through this. The reason you can't just turn it off is because you do have a big heart.  I know that it doesn't help right now but it will get better.  Keep your head up best you can and try to find anything positive and focus on that. 
(((((HUG))))))
 Re: divorce papers corkscrew: ((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
 Re: divorce papers sosad05: (((HUGS))) I know how you feel. It seems weird that you love/have dreams with someone for years...all to suddenly be over.  In the long run, you will be better because you DO have a heart and are taking the time to grieve. I dont think the pain ever truly goes away but it definitely subsides and becomes tolerable with time.
 Re: divorce papers stryder: [quote author=hr link=topic=29838.msg293108#msg293108 date=1149612041">
... and he is being so non shilant about the whole thing.
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My ex said EXACTLY the same thing about me after we seperated. (Granted she left me). We dated for 4 years and were married for 9 ... along the way we had two beautiful children.

Trust me ... it has to bother him some, but more than likely he would rather die than let you know it. And btw ... it would make his day to know that his actions bother you (it made me feel good knowing it bothered my ex - as sad as that sounds) ... so, don't let it show. Throw it right back at him and keep your chin held high if you can.