Dating one month after separated??? Baby1234: Ok, one month after we were separated he was already sleeping with someone. I knew that after we had spent one night together - I wanted to work things out - and he told me he didn't want the marriage anymore, he couldn't trust me (No cheating from my part, but I was the one to ask for at first). Three days later he started sleeping in her house everyday, he would come home just to shower and change his clothes. The filed for divorce, put our house for sale, I moved out - 40 days total. Two weeks later he decided to keep the house and take the girl over there. MY HOUSE, MAN!!!
I know he was never in love with her, but new sex is fun, right? I do believe we could have had a chance if he had not runned to "move on with his life". Honestly, I think he may have a chance to rethink his life if they break up - everyone says how much he's changed in a negative way. What are the odds for this to happen? Hey guys, what do you males have to say about this rebound?
Re:Dating one month after separated??? LKN4ME: Sorry, not a guy perspective. But it is just that: a rebound.
Sounds like to me you bruised his ego and he's doing the "Instant gratification" thing to make himself feel better.
Hope all works out. Good luck.
Re:Dating one month after separated??? Bubba: He is using her for sex.
Nothing more.
Re:Dating one month after separated??? picadilly: Hey Bubba, congrats on the 100th post.
Ok, that out of the way Baby, men have really delecate ego's, if you asked for the seperation, he may be so hurt that it is hard for him to turn back from the road he's on. Can I ask, why you wanted out originally? I'm not familliar with your situation.
I think right now, this OW is giving him the attention he wants to heal his ego & in his mind if there was no real reason why you would have originally wanted out, then he's scared that whatever he did, he'll do again to make you leave him again so he's trying to protect himself, but that protection of his heart is a hard thing & can mess up even the best of us. It's a hard call without knowing more. If you've already posted your story, I'll have a look back to see.
But no, this relationship will probably not last.
Edit: Ok, looked up your story. Pretty much everything I said applies. Sounds like your Ex was scared that he could not trust if your love was true after you dropped that bomb shell on him. Not to say he didn't deserve it if he kept you so isolated like that. Makes no sense why he would be so selfish but some people make no sense at all anyway. If your feeling unhappy, maybe look into getting therapy or a counsellor of sorts.
Also, you gave into his keeping all your keep sakes & not paying you the full money he owes you for the house, I would think that you made it clear to him that he could walk all over you. You have to stand up for yourself, I know it's easy for me to say in hind sight. I know I gave into alot my stbx wanted when she first left me, thinking that if I gave her what she wanted then maybe she'll see I'm more accommodating now & will come back to me. All it did was make me her door mat.
Just my thoughts. Be well.
Re:Dating one month after separated??? DOC: Baby, I did the exact same thing once. I was so hurt and scared that I found someone, well multiple someones, right away. I think it hurt so bad I didn't want to face it. Moving on to someone else is exciting and temporarily fills the hole. It's only a drug though not a cure. The high will wear off and reality will set back in.
I was just served yesterday. I've been having an internal struggle lately. One part of me is pissed and wants to go out and have sex with as many women as possible. But, the other part of me knows masking the pain is only temporary and you can't hide from your troubles. People deal with pain in different ways. Some drink or take drugs. I would bet he is using this woman as his drug and that's it. If you think you made a mistake you will have to do your best to prove to him that you will never do it again. I've decided that if my wife comes to her senses and asks to come back, she will have to prove to me she's committed by going to relationship counseling with me until I feel things are stable. Hope that helps a little.
