Sold our house... LoveFool: This past Friday morning we sold our house. And to think that this time last year we were sitting together buying that house. I arrived a bit late and saw her for the first time in months. I sat next to her and we exchanged a friendly greeting. I was the only male in the room and when I walked in I sensed I wasnt welcomed. After we signed all the necessary paper work and began to leave the office, my stbx was showered with compassion from the other women and expressions of sympathy towards her while I was simply ignored. It kinda made me think what my stbx is really saying to other people about why we are getting a divorce.. but that is off the subject and not really relevant.
I had been very stoic throughout the whole process until my stbx and I walked into the parking lot and towards our respective cars. I guess the finality of it all started to hit me. I had asked for the last thing that represented our union financially, her EZ-pass device which had my name on the account. As she reached into her car to get it, I could no longer hold back my emotions. I had promised myself a few months back, when I realized it was over, that I would not allow her to see any more emotion from me. But, at this point I couldnt hold it any longer :'(. My eyes began to water as she handed me the device which I believe caused her to show emotion as well. We both stood there crying as I believe we both realized it would be last time we ever had to see each other. There was nothing else binding us, no more house, no joint credit cards, no furniture, no more puppys, and no more love... She said that it was really good to see me again, and as she cried asked if it was allowed to give me a hug. I simply stood there and looked in her beautiful blue eyes for the last time and simply shook her hand and wished her good luck.....
Divorce sucks! I wish there was an EZ-pass through the long and hard highway called divorce...
LF
Re:Sold our house... JustMe: Damn bro, it's never easy.
I've been stoic for much of the separation myself. I think there will be a final moment where I will probably lose it also. I mean you're ripping something apart that you put your time, heart, and energy into.
It's going to hurt. Even though I don't know your story, I know that there must have been a reason why you two split.
If you made it this far, and you feel like most of you wanted to do it, then it's probably for the best. There are so many, many people in unhappy marriages. They cry like you did every day and they do have someone in your life.
Re:Sold our house... LoveFool: JustMe,
My story, the short version, is that she drops the BOMB on me in November telling me she no longer is in Love with me. We try to reconcile in February when her feelings for me apparently come back. That lasted a month until she says she is confused again and admits to having sex with someone else during our seperation/ attempted reconciliation. That ended all hope for me. Divorce is in the works, we should be legally divorced by August.
It still is very hard because Im still in love with her, or at least with who I thought she was. We have totally disengaged emotionally which has helped me tremendously...
Re:Sold our house... ChrisM: Hang in there brother. I don't know for sure myself yet, but I can't believe that it won't get better.
This is by far the hardest thing I've ever gone through.
