One stressed out momma

One stressed out momma trying to cope in Ky: [color=purple"> [/color"> Ok here is my situation, I have 2 boys who have a looser of a father. When we were going through our divorce I did something very stupid and gave him primary custody of our oldest son and I kept the baby. I skipped the state to try and get my head screwed back on and was gone for 6 months. It started getting to me as he wouldn't let me see my son and I was missing him greatly so I came back almost a yr ago now.  The divorce went final back in Oct. and ever since I have had my oldest son in my care. His dad has no place to live and as a 38 yr old man he lives back home with his parents.  He has never paid child support for the one that he was court ordered to pay and is now agreeing to sign over custody of the oldest as he doesn't have him anyway. I cant get much help as I have him here but not the sole provider for him. I am thinking that I am going to wait till he signs the papers over for me to have sole custody of the oldest son and then push for my support case  to be opened.  I also want to keep us from fighting and the boys having to hear us fight and to me money isn't everything but I do need it to survive and provide for my children.  Can anyone give me some counsel to this situtation? 
Re: One stressed out momma JNA: Contact three places in your local area...

1) Childrens Services
2) Child Support Enforcement Agency
3) An Atty for "free" consultation

Human Services would be good also if you want to "burn" him...

If you want more info on this go over to Findlaw.com

They have a message board like this one...I'm not their but others are...

Hope this helps

JNA

Re: One stressed out momma snkpack: How long will it take for you to obtain custody of your eldest.  In most cases, even if you initiate a child support case, it won't be "enforced" for several months after you file.  However, the judge will generally back date your support order to the date that you did file.  If you think you'll have custody in about three months time, I would say file for child support now.  It will be about that long before you hear anything.

As a mother in your situation, I would definitely wait until I had the custody before initiating a support order that might rile your ex and cause him to act rashly.  Especially if you don't need the money.
Re: One stressed out momma trying to cope in Ky: Thanks so much for all your help.  I was thinking about waiting to push the custody thing until he gave custody and then we could go forward.  I wouldn't care then to make him mad at me cuz he couldn't get custody of him after he signs him over.  I am trying very hard to keep peace so that he will be more apt to sign it.    I think that if he doesn't sign it soon I am going to say look you are going to take Levi and take care of him as I dont have the money to keep him as I cant get help due to the fact that I dont have legal custody.  I will keep ya posted on what happens.  Your thoughts are greatly appreciated.
Re: One stressed out momma JNA: Confused wrote: I am trying very hard to keep peace so that he will be more apt to sign it.   

Just my two-sense...

Sometimes it's better to be "mean"
Rather than "nice"...

Nice=You get walked on...
Mean=You get his attention...

Big Time

You have the upper hand not him...

So go for it

Stay Strong

JNA

Some people think you will never take action so they lay back
Prove to him you will... ;D