She Filed Today niceguy: Well it's been a while since I've been posting. After months of procrastination she filed today. I'm having very mixed emotions about this. I know we can't be together, but it still doesn't make this easy.
Mostly today I feel really alone. We saw each other yesterday, actually spent quite a bit of time together. She's still someone who I care about deeply, but I just didn't feel much else. That's good right? Still hard though. Just sitting here wondering where it all went wrong.
Re: She Filed Today justmenow: Think of it this way - at least you're headed in a definite direction now. You're not just hanging in limbo. This will be hard, but you will be happier in the future. I wish I believed that wholeheartedly. After spending the evening with my stbX, I feel the same way right now. Frustrated that things couldn't work out, sure that they wouldn't work out, and sad that they didn't work out. It's confusing and I am lost. :-/
Re: She Filed Today achingallover: You guys, this is all so VERY painful. There is NOTHING about this that is fun for me at this stage of the game. But you know what, we did the best we could. I keep telling myself, if I am supposed to be with this person the universe will make it so. It is beyond my control now. BUt it sure doesn't make it any less sad. I know, I feel alone too. Very alone. But it's not true. We are not alone. WE all have people in our lives that love us. And the truth is, we do NOT need to be with some who can't see how great we are. There are so many other people out there that will think we are great. We just aren't aware of that because we've been in long committed relationships. But there are, and the sickest part for me is that my trust has been so voilated by this man, yet the only thing that is getting me through this is my trust that the universe will support me. Now that is a struggle!
Hang in there guys. I know the universe will support you all too!
Hugs-
Steph
Re: She Filed Today grober: justmenow is so right. Limbo is the worst place to be in the divorce process. You can't go back, you can't go forward. Now that the divorce is going forward, at least you will start seeing progress toward something better.
[quote"> I know we can't be together, but it still doesn't make this easy.[/quote">
No, it doesn't. I know that conflict all to well. Emotionally you're still tied to your STBX, but your head knows the reality of the situation. It is a really tough spot to be in and it is very, very sad. The feelings of saddness and frustration lessen over time.
Hang in there guys. It does get better. I promise. :-/
Re: She Filed Today mieyedoc: You have to have faith that everything that happens is meant to happen. When I get sad about the impending divorce, I say to myself, if she was meant to be with you she would be. Period. Why would you want to have some one stay with you , just so it doesnt hurt. We can all live thru the pain, it sucks, but its necessary. Moving forward is important because a man or woman without a future is doomed to either wallow in the present or re-live the past. That is not living , that is exsisting. God bless everyone and remember YOU ARE NOT ALONE. M
