I'm probably the only person who is LESS stressed by law school than by life

I'm probably the only person who is LESS stressed by law school than by life tara: My grandmother is sick (pneumonia, and not recovering well), J is possibly facing a nasty custody battle at some indeterminate time (his ex is considering moving, with kiddo, across the country -- we both hope she said it out of frustration and not because she was seriously considering it), and for the first time in my life I'm internalizing more of it than he is (he's being cold and logical like I usually am in a crisis) and J and kiddo will be gone this weekend (which, normally, would be a nice respite but the timing sucks) as a result of all of that, I've got the telltale throbbing head, tight arms, loss of appetite. Yay, anxiety!

I can't do anything to help my grandmother (in ICU, can't take calls, and she's across the country) and I can't do much to help J (after all, the worst lawyer in the world is a 1L with a Lexis password).

I like torts class. Torts are cold (especially battery in a single-intent jurisdiction; that's just evil) and logical and make sense. I like it when I brief a case and it matches what we discuss in class. Those are problems I can solve.
Re: I'm probably the only person who is LESS stressed by law school than by life spooky: Rough deal, I hope things take a turn for the better. Good luck with everything.
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Rough deal, I hope things take a turn for the better. Good luck with everything.
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Thanks...thing is, most of my life is pretty good. I am enjoying school, making new friends and new professional contact, and I have a man in my life who loves me and who I love.

I normally do (cold and logical) worst-case scenarios...I write them out and see that I can handle them and it makes me feel better. The first time my ex discussed divorce, I wrote out the worst possible scenario: He not only leaves, but leaves the country (there was an emotional OW in another country; obviously there was nothing physical), and leaves me to clean up his mess -- sell the house, do the divorce, all that. And you know what? I looked at that, realized it would suck, but I could handle it.

In this case...the worst-case scenario for my grandmother is, well, death. And (cold and logical me) I can handle that. It will happen eventually, probably sooner rather than later, as she's not young and has not been in good health for years anyway. I know how to grieve. (Yes, that sounded extra-special-cold and logical.)

But I'm really at a loss for J's situation...worst-case scenario? J's ex is granted permission by the court to take kiddo out of state, and J gets an occasional weekend and maybe a long stretch in the summer. I probably won't see kiddo much at all during the school year, as the weekend trips would have to be out there (until she got old enough to fly unaccompanied), and that sucks for me but I really don't get a say, and yes, I'll deal.  There's nothing I can do, and I have no legal claim to the child (in WI, my presence is neither a help nor a hindrance for custody).

(J will fight the move, as he wants both parents to be active participants in kiddo's life; failing that, he'll fight for custody; failing that, he'll fight for full summer custody.)

I just hope his ex has the words to tell their daughter why she doesn't get to see her dad very often -- I know any words I would have on the subject would be indelicate. Right now,  the nicest thing I can come up with is, "mom decided her immediate happiness* was worth more than her child's well-being and relationship with her father, and apparently the court agreed." But I'd never say that for a four-year-old.

*Mom is employed, but not well; she has friends and a BF out here. She thinks by moving closer to her family, she'll be able to get a better job and have more support. This is not one of those job-transfer situations (she has no job in hand) where yes, it sucks, but at least there is a concrete reason for seeking the change.

The problem, though, with worst-case-scenario-ing J's situation is that it'll be ongoing. A divorce or a death has an endpoint, when all of the procedure is over, and you can grieve and get on with your life. J will be dealing with missing his daughter every day, and that breaks my heart.