My In-Laws Seem To Have Forgotten I'm The Good Guy... lovelock: Hi, Been a while since I've updated my story but I've been busy trying to heal myself and lead a normal-ish life. Yesterday morning my wife asked me to drop our son off at her Mums house. I've had my son since last Friday afternoon and had to go to work yesterday afternoon so I agreed. When we got there my wife let us in and we started to chat about our boy when I heard 'Morning (my name)' cominng from the toilet. It was my mum-in-laws husband. Another 'Morning' followed from the bedroom. It was my wifes mum. My wife and I made small talk for a few minutes then moved out to the garden. WTF!!!! I'm the good guy in all this. I'm the innocent victim. My wife is the liar and cheater and homebreaker. She is the one that is having the affair. What have I done that is so bad that my in-laws (whom I have had a very good, respectful relationship in the past) have to hide themselves away in bedrooms and toilets to avoid facing me. They know what sort of person I am.... A kind loving, gentle, honest person. How can they treat me like this when I know that they are good people at heart. Rant Over >:(
Re:My In-Laws Seem To Have Forgotten I'm The Good Guy... picadilly: The worst thing I think you could have done to them was to be the good guy in the relationship while their daughter is the "bad guy". Parents are funny, they want their kids to be the best people they can be & when they end up just being human, they tend to be taken aback & a bit embarrassed about the whole thing.
So, they probably weren't trying to insult you so much as just trying to avoid you. Hard to look you in the eye & ask how your doing when they are in the home of the enemy that broke your heart. Remember, blood is thicker then a marriage certificate. She is & always will be their little girl, you will only ever be the father of their grandkids. While that is a lot, it will not out weigh the fact that they will always have to stand by their little girl, no matter how many stupid things she does.
Don't be offended by them, unless they say something out right against you, they have no choice but to love their daughter. I'm sure nothing your kids will ever do will ever make you hate them... the same applies here.
Be well.
Re:My In-Laws Seem To Have Forgotten I'm The Good Guy... jason_stl: It all depends on what version of the story they were told. If your wife was okay lieing and cheating on you, do you seriously think she is going to reveal all to her parents?
I know mine did not. The little devil on my shoulder nearly prompted me to call her dad up and tell him what a slut he raised. I held a lot of aces up my sleeve in case they came at me with off-the-wall accusations with their daughter.
Pay them no mind. You still have the upper hand.
Re:My In-Laws Seem To Have Forgotten I'm The Good Guy... Safetykc: I agree with Pic...they might have just felt uncomfortable...
Don't take it personally...When my X told her mom she had messed around on me, her mom said...."whew...you are one class A-1 b!itch!" I wouldn't even have done that...but they are still super close and her mom helped her set up her apt when she moved out...I wasn't mad...I mean...it's her mother who gave her birth for gosh sake...it's not like she killed someone...she hurt me dearly and MY family thinks she is scum of the earth but to expect her parents too is a little much...even if deep down they think she was wrong...most parents love their children unconditionally....
Take care and don't take it personal...
Safety
Re:My In-Laws Seem To Have Forgotten I'm The Good Guy... lovelock: Thanks for all the replies. I guess they just must feel uncomfortable. Like I said, they are good people at heart and they must be hurting over the affair as well. One thing I've realised is that my wifes affair and walkaway behaviour is bringing out the worst in everbody. My son is hurting. My In-laws are hurting. They are all lashing out trying to accept the situation. Ironically this crisis is only bringing out the best in me. Sure I feel devastated as hell but I am the good guy. The loyal husband and father. When everything has settled down I hope my in-laws will look back on how I handled the situation and feel a little bit remorseful about how they acted and also a little bit proud of how I acted. Cheers!!
