Is it easier to become friends with the same sex that cheated on you? LKN4ME: Okay, got a question out there for men and women.
Have you found that it's easier to become good friends with the opposite sex once your partner/ex-partner has cheated on you?
Or: Would you rather have close friends that are the same sex as your partner?
Sorry, it's late and my brain is going about a million miles an hour so I hope this makes sense to you all.
I have always gotten along better with men than women but lost touch with all my guy friends once I got married. I didn't want my husband to get jealous because I had close male friends. Before everyone goes and gets pissy on me - I also lost touch with most of my close female friends too, so it's not like I felt I needed to get rid of any of my friends because of my husband.
So any comments or ideas on this one?
Re:Is it easier to become friends with the same sex that cheated on you? Good to be ME: I tend to get along with guys rather than girls. That is just because I only have brothers and I am not a girly girl...I mean I do wear make up now and nice clothes...but I love hockey and beer and the guy type activities. Now if I had a girlfriend that liked that kind of thing too then I would have no problem hanging with her.
I think it is just because I tend to like the guy type activities. I am also a bit of a potty mouth and some girls just don't like that. I mean if i know that it would offend a person then I wouldn't swear or tell bad jokes...but I have found that I don't have to censore myself with guys.
Does this make sense?
I mean I have tons of girlfriends...but am now starting to make some guy friends.
What are others options?
Cheers all
Re:Is it easier to become friends with the same sex that cheated on you? Safetykc: Good question.
I have a circle of friends, men and women I have known over a decade and some new ones I have met in the last few years...I tend to make long term friendships...as for making friends with new people, I seemed to make better friends with woman post D...which got me in a little trouble as I also hit the divorce diet and my cuteness factor/libido went through the rough so I ended up in a couple "buddy" situations as someone so eloquently put it...So I would have to say women, but I think if I met more men I would be ok with that too. I think it has nothing to do with the cheating factor....people are people (so why should it be...you and I should get along so awfully...sigh, dating myself there with my warbling rendition of Depeche Mode) ;)
I'm curious, LKN , why would being cheated on have a factor in a "friendship" which has nothing to do with being cheated on in "THAT" way. I mean, new friends, men or women, could prove to be untrustworthy, but I am not sure I see where being cheated on physically has anything to do with the friendship...now a relationship or dating...ya, could see that.
Safety
Re:Is it easier to become friends with the same sex that cheated on you? ChrisJane: I like my male friends. I tend to look at women thinking okay, I befriend you, do I have to worry about you sleeping with my guy....
I think Gretchen Wilson wrote her "Redneck Woman" "Here for the Party" songs just for me.... I love to get down and dirty with the guys <talking mud spashing four wheeling dirty guys> May not be a 10, but I can look good ;)
Guess the female issues are due to never knowing who you can trust with your man. Have to work on those someday.
