Found an Old Christmas Card Bubba: Well for those who haven't read about my situation, my wife and I are just splitting up, but until the end of Sept. we still live in the same house. She is leaving me for some scumbag she had an affair.
Now the other day I was looking for something in the desk and came across a christmas card from X-mas 2002. It was from my stbx to me. Here is basically what it said:
"To my beloved Husband,
I love you very much, and could never imagine ever being with anyone else. Merry Christmas.
Love Always,
Your Devoted Wife"
So I pulled out the card and gave it to her, and said:
"Well I guess you can imagine yourself with someone else afterall. The funny part of the card is the the devoted wife part. Like you even know the meaning of the word devoted. And that card is from only a year before you cheated on me. Yeah, I can see how you can suddenly lose your feelings for me."
Then I walked away shaking my head. She has no clue what she is doing. Oh well, soon it will be over and I won;t have to listen to her crap.
Re:Found an Old Christmas Card Discarded: D**n Bubba,
Send a little bit of that callousness around to others going through this S**t. I know I could sure use just a little of it dealing with my cheating spouse.
My question is how did she respond?
Glare?
Verbal profanity?
Complete disregard?
Cry?
Re:Found an Old Christmas Card brokenman: Hey man, been there but I didn't confront her about it. In fact, my ex had unsent letters to me professing her love and devotion in the same notebooks with tales of her affair. Pretty sick stuff. I think most of those notes and cards end up being filled with words they think you want to hear alongside things they know they should feel but don't.
Maybe those feelings were there at the time but that hardly matters. I wouldn't be suprised if she didn't react at all to your confrontation. For me and my ex it is like so many things never happened and never existed.
Re:Found an Old Christmas Card DOC: I have a collection of cards and love letters my wife wrote to me about being so lucky to spend the rest of her life with me and how well we fit together. All bull shi#. I wonder if their feelings really change or if they were lying in the beginning. How can they rip our hearts out like that and not even flinch. You're not alone bud, we just have to hang in there for better days. They say time heals all. I just wish it would hurry.
Re:Found an Old Christmas Card fisherman: Ha!
I found a bunch of these, along with the marriage vows she wrote to me in her dressing room the day of our wedding... I tore them up in front of her ;D
After which I played the violin she had given me for Christmas a bit, then proceeded to destroy it and but it in the trash >:(
That was a couple months ago... Now I could care less. When the hurt goes away it's still tough, but you know you're completely over it when you genuinely don't care about the other persons well-being. They just become another person - a perfect stranger.
As for the cards, pictures, and honeymoon tape - I saved some for the kids, and destroyed the rest. I have no desire to relive that hell.
Wow! reread my message and I come of as being bitter or vindictive... I'm not. Just releived I guess to be out from under such a repressive weight for so long... I no longer wanted the cards, and the violin was a cheap $100 knock-off she bought as an after thought last Christmas... No great loss.
