Married Friends jason_stl: My best friend and his wife, I love to death. I would take a bullet for either one of them in a heartbeat. They are what I had hoped to become with my ex, and I am blessed to have them in my life. We do a lot fo things together, including dancing, drinks, dinners, etc. However, as of late, I am getting those stares from his wife. You know the stares that I am talking about. The ones that ask the question, "Who do I know that would be perfect for him?"
Now, my best friend, is completely in my corner with me living the playboy lifestyle. But I know his wife wants me to not be the fifth wheel at the "couples" functions we do so often with other married and committed relationship people we hang out with. I have a really opinionated view of introducing women to friends, it just doesn't happen unless I know they are going to make it past date number five.
So yesterday I received an e-mail from my best friend talking about his wife's friend that just got out of a relationship a few months ago. Now, here is where it goes downhill. We want to all go out, so xxxx can introduce you to yyyy. She needs to stop dating creeps and needs to date a nice guy like you. Whoa! .... nice guy?!?
Ughhhh I can hear the sounds of the falling anvil all ready. Expectations are too high with people that set you up, which is why I never use this angle. Anyone else experience something like this? I never did this with the single friends that I knew when I was married. Maybe I should have? I feel like I have a date stamped on my chest right now, which broadcasts my expiration now. Like, "Oh look! You have to act now because the good Jason expires in a few weeks. Don't miss out, this is a limited time offer."
Anyway that is the best I could come up with today. I am bored at work, waiting for my next appointment.
Re:Married Friends Lumpy: Don't be so quick to nix this Jase. Maybe your friends wife has some insight that you don't. Who knows what this womans' expectations are? I say give it a shot and see what happens. It's not like you're hard up or can't find your own dates. Try something different. You might be surprised.
Re:Married Friends JimB: [quote author=jason_stl link=board=6;threadid=3542;start=0#msg27864 date=1090600361">
However, as of late, I am getting those stares from his wife. You know the stares that I am talking about. The ones that ask the question, "Who do I know that would be perfect for him?" [/quote">
LOL I thought you were going to say something else....
[quote"> Expectations are too high with people that set you up, which is why I never use this angle. [/quote">
Agreed.
Obviously, you cherish the friendship you have with this couple. On the one hand, you hate to seem ungrateful for their kind intentions, but on the other hand, man gotta do, man gotta do.
You've got some good options here. You could say to your friends "I know you're looking out for me, and I appreciate it, but I'm just not up for it at the moment". Or you could play along, meet this girl, and at the first opportunity let her know that you're just going along with this for your friends' sake and you're not looking for anything serious. I guess if it was me, I'd be inclined to play along. If I had close friends who wanted that badly to do something "good" for me, I'd probably put their wishes ahead of my own. After all, it wouldn't cost me that much - just a night of my time.
Glad to hear you're able to hang out with couples. Most happily married couples don't really seem to know whether I'm harmless or a threat....
Re:Married Friends Safetykc: Harmless Jim....harmless??? LOL
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Take care man.
Safety
Re:Married Friends SherylLynn: I am in the same boat. All my friends are married and are now asking me to date their single guy friends. Set ups suck!
Now that I have said that, how bad could it be? They are friends with people I like and so we at least have something in common right?
It's been 14 years since I've been on a date. OMG!
Don't do it! ;D
