Noooooo.... It's too late!!!! fisherman: My stbx has been calling me lately wanting to talk. I put her off for a few weeks (our hearing is next Wed) and now she tells me she doesn't want a divorce!!!! Where was this woman three months ago when I would have been receptive to this sort of thing?
So I told her that I would listen to her - even though she didn't listen to me when I wanted to pour my heart out - I'll give her that chance.
Anyone else out there needed to stay strong during this sort of thing???
Re:Noooooo.... It's too late!!!! cloud: Why did she have a change of heart?
Re:Noooooo.... It's too late!!!! fisherman: Probably because she has no other place to go....
Actually, inside she has always been a decent person - she just got caught up in a lot and lost control.... I watched it happen in slow motion and there was nothing I could do about it. As much as I would love to be able to pick up where we left off, I just don't see that as being possible. For one, how could I respect myself for taking her back???
I guess the answer as I see it is to let her know that I would be willing to talk about it, the divorce will continue either way, and after a year of councelling and showing me (by way of actions - not talk) that she is serious then I could take her back... In the mean time, we live apart. If she's not ok with that then I guess she isn't too serious huh? Besides - I'm over her now, why do I want to open that wound?
Re:Noooooo.... It's too late!!!! leem03: Good for you Fisherman! That's the way I think all of us that were left want it to happen. We all want to know that one day in the not too far off future, they will want us back. And at that time we can honestly say....SORRY TOO LATE! I'm over you, you've hurt me too badly.
With that being said, you are willing to talk about it, so maybe in reality it isn't really too late. I would have to believe that you should be able to get an extension on your waiting time as far as the courts are concerned. Test the waters that way, see if she is really serious this time. Otherwise, still no harm. If it doesn't work out then you will still be able to go through with everything as planned but with a little delay.
Only giving it as an option. By all means, if you are over her I think it's a perfect spot for playing the I Told You So card. You knew she would want you back! Now it's up to you!
Good Luck!
Re:Noooooo.... It's too late!!!! cloud: That's true.
But as long as you are really over her.
Nothing would suck more than for you to change your mind a week or so from now and then she plays the I Told You So card back on you.
Cloud
