Got Served Today DOC: :'( Got served today. So, i got served at work. That was special. I called her up after I read the friggin thing and asked her if this is what she wants. Of course she said YES! I told her she will never be able to say that it was a mutual decision. This is a total NGR divorce. I asked her how she can go on with out seeing the children everyday and she said it will suck. It will SUCK! Is that all you have to say you cold hearted......... Sorry. I broke down in tears today when i dropped off my kids at 5:30am at my moms. Every time I leave it feels as if I will never see them again. I've been moving the past couple of days. She packed up her stuff and left while I was at work. I packed all our wedding stuff and the 20 dozen roses I dried and assorted and all the love letters and marriage pictures and home videos and every other F-ing memory. It hurts so bad i want to cease to exist. This was never supposed to happen to me. I had the perfect family. Awesome credit, no debt, wide screen with surround sound, ATV's, muscle car, brand new crew cab, nice house, pretty yard done myself, kids rooms decorated by their mother, gorgeous wife with new 34DD's I might add, fireman soon to be police officer, everything except the home sweet home door mat, oh shi%, that must have been it. No placemat. What a joke. I can't figure out what happened. I did everything for her. Anyone else get that load of crap? Anyone know a real woman that's willing to be treated good and enjoy it?
Re:Got Served Today SherylLynn: DOC
I am so sorry to hear that happened today. That totally sucks! I am the one who served my stbx, so I don't know how it feels, but I know how hard it was to serve the SOB, so.....
It is difficult when you think your marriage is perfect.... I thought mine was until I found out he had cheated for over 3 years, and even after we decided to work things out, he still cheated, so I was done.
He lives with his OW and hasn't moved his stuff out yet and only sees his daughter 10 hours a week, but one day I will be happy about this situation. One day you will too.
You will realize that you are better off without her.... you will find someone who wants to be treated like a queen, you will find someone who will treat you like a king.... maybe not this week and maybe not this month or even this year... but someday.
Chin up and take care DOC! The sun will come out again tomorrow. I promise.
SherylLynn
Re:Got Served Today DOC: Thanks for your kind words SherylLynn. And I'm sorry for what you've been thru. I hear about dead beat husbands all the time. That's why I can't understand. I would think she would know how lucky she was to have the father of her children love her and the kids and hang around to take care of them. I feel so stupid and emotionally used. I know I'll find someone that will be thankful to have me, but I just wish it could be my children's mother.
Re:Got Served Today Discarded: Doc,
I know what you mean about doing everything you can. I did too, although I was the one who served her due to what I found out about. I also provided very well for my STBX. I also did all the things that I thought was right. It's amazing when you think about all you have done for your wife when she just seems to go off the deep end. Not much I can tell you about her that will help any. Keep your sanity and focus on what you want out of life.
Be prepared if she decides to come back, I was really surprised mine decided to come back and try to work things out and fix things. I wasn't prepared for that, I figured she knew what she was doing and destroying. I thought she would realize she can't do what she was doing and I'd just stick around and wait for her. Now I'm in the quandry of trying to figure out if I want the mother of our children back in my life. I can't trust her after what she has done. Everything is a total mess. I decided to make no decision and see what happens quite a long period of time and I still don't know what the outcome will be.
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Re:Got Served Today DOC: I hope for my childrens sake she will come to her senses and realize what she is throwing away. If not for my kids I would probably not give her a second chance if she asked. But, I have to keep an open mind for them and take any chance even if it means being hurt again. I do think she will see her mistake I just hope she isn't to stubborn to admit it. I wonder if I will be able to have closure if she doesn't come back. I hope it doesn't come to that.
Do what's best for your kids, they deserve the best. Good luck
