Re: Bear with me guys, this isn't easy.
I say bravo to kate, SC, and anyone else who are now persuing a different course of action and living life in a different way. :)
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Re: Bear with me guys, this isn't easy. kimberly: ok ok, don't get carried away. This is obviously a painful topic because I was cheated on 2x by the same person that swore he saw the light and would never hurt me like that again.
I don't mean to sound so cut and dry.........I guess some people do learn. It just seems with cheaters there are so many repeat offences. I figured it was either something someone was capable of or not. If it's in you to cheat given the right circumstances you'll cheat again.
Hey, hopefully I'm wrong, I'm in a very negative place right now. Sorry.
Re: Bear with me guys, this isn't easy. fly: Torn, it's okay to be in a negitive place. It's hard not to interject only your own personal expereinces.
What you do have to remember, is what everyone else went through it not what you went through and yes, you are in a lot of pain because of that, but don't judge me or anyone else by it
Disagree with it, but don't judge me for it. I carry my own pain and remorse.
Re: Bear with me guys, this isn't easy. katelyn: People never change. They are stuck being their mistakes. No chance for redemption. Pssh. That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.
If that's true, we all should just shoot ourselves in the head right now. If that's true, what's the friggin point of even living?
Just ignorant.
Re: Bear with me guys, this isn't easy. fly: Torn I have to disagree..
Here is my confession
At the very end of my marriage. Like 2 weeks before I filed for divorce. I cheated with one of my best friends. He is still one of my favorite people in this world.
Do I regret it. Yeah. I do. I should have never done it. It is my low point to myself and I walk in that everyday.
I am not going to give you the reasons. Because they will be looked at as excuses. I know the pain I was put through. I know the tears I shed. I know.
What I will tell you is for 9 years I was with a man who at the end of the day would allow me to beg him for sex and when I creid could walk out of the room because I was ugly and sexually unattractive.
But that does not mean I should have cheated. It was my catalyst though.
I own that to my low point. I should have been stronger. I should have been able to stand up and scream hell no on my own
But I didn't did I?
But I learned and grew and I honor who I am. I like myself and I love that I have grown as a human being
