why do we fight so hard?

why do we fight so hard? lumbeeman: i know this doesnt apply to everyone here, but why do some of us fight so hard to save a marriage that was never good to begin with?my marriage took a downward turn after the first 2 months and i lived unhappy for years, yes i loved her, but she wasnt good to me and i was lied to and decieved so many times.i did believe in for better or worse good times and bad.i didnt feel loved by her and thats the truth, maybe its obsession to get something thats denied to you by the other person, i dont know
Re: why do we fight so hard? vdc_1975: Denial
Unrealistic expectations
Hoping you can change a person
Hopeless romantic

These could be but a few reasons.  A co-worker was telling me that one thing she heard once on Dr. Laura(never listened to her myself), was that having a good marriage has nothing to do with love, "Love just aint enough".  She mentioned that on Thursday at work, my co-worker get married in one week., as we talked about her wedding. :)
Re: why do we fight so hard? lumbeeman: ican see the denial, hoping i could change her, and being a hopeless romantic, that i am.but unrealistic expectaions no, i think love is enough if both people have it.thats the reality we both didnt have it i guess.rejection is a bitch its make you doubt your self worth.i do believe there are times when two are not meant to be one.its just hard to accept that this is one of those times
Re: why do we fight so hard? ebl: I think that it's because you  really love her and don't want to see her with anyone else.

I also think that it's because you don't want to be alone and/or because you like the comfort level that you have - knowing that you have a partner.

Re: why do we fight so hard? ebl: [quote author=lumbeeman link=topic=37569.msg404780#msg404780 date=1163856483">
.rejection is a bitch its make you doubt your self worth.[/quote">

You are so right.  When my  husband left me for an older woman, whom he's only known for 2 months, I had lots of self-doubts.