Re: No-fault BS

Re: No-fault BS Lumpy:   If memory serves, there are some semantic tricks you can use to lessen the blow. For example, if there is a penalty percentage for withdrawing from the account, you can argue that the account is actually worth X% less. You claim that in order to pay off the difference, you'll need to close the account, thus incurring that penalty. Underhanded and quasi-legal I spose. You didn't hear it from me.... ;)
No-fault BS gdgross: California laws suck.

My wife leaves me, I spend six months trying to make it work with her, and finally realize that, well, you can lead a horse to water... 

Now she wants half of my 401k and the lion's share of the equity in our house. 

What a load of crap.
Re: No-fault BS Lumpy: [quote author=gdgross link=topic=38078.msg411902#msg411902 date=1164837618">
California laws suck.

My wife leaves me, I spend six months trying to make it work with her, and finally realize that, well, you can lead a horse to water... 

Now she wants half of my 401k and the lion's share of the equity in our house. 

What a load of crap.
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Unless your lawyer is riding the short bus, she shouldn't get more than half the equity. The 401k is a little dicier. Does she have her own retirement account? If so you shouldn't have to give up much of yours. Did you have the 401k before marrying?
Re: No-fault BS gdgross: [quote author=Lumpy link=topic=38078.msg411907#msg411907 date=1164837898">

Unless your lawyer is riding the short bus, she shouldn't get more than half the equity. The 401k is a little dicier. Does she have her own retirement account? If so you shouldn't have to give up much of yours. Did you have the 401k before marrying?
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Well, I was hoping to avoid lawyers/court as much as possible, but it may come down to that if I have to protect myself.

I did have the 401k before we were married, but only for about a month or two.  She does have her own retirement account, but mine has significantly more money in it.
Re: No-fault BS ebl: it doesn't matter if you had the 401K before or after your marriage.  Your spouse is entitled to half.  I know - I sued my husband for half of his.  (Even though I'm still in love with him  :P )