Re: WHAT GIVES-??? NEED ADVICE ASAP!
Shelly, it's a rough world out there. Dating is kind of indicative of life in general, and for those of us who have been isolated in a marriage for a while, it's easy to forget what real life is like. Real life is full of little rejections, each of which gives us an opportunity to build character by overcoming them.
It sounds to me like you're taking this pretty seriously. And quite frankly, dating is too ridiculous to be taken seriously. You'll meet all kinds of freaks out there, the vast majority of whom won't be worth pursuing. If you don't approve of the way this one is behaving (regardless of what his motivations might or might not be), or if he's just making you nuts, kick him aside and get back in the game.
Re: WHAT GIVES-??? NEED ADVICE ASAP! superwife: Welcome to the world of post-divorce online dating :D
Seriously, I think the rest have said it. Not that he is necessarily a playa, but he is most likely checking out all his options. And you know what? There's not really anything wrong with that, IMO. I came to realize this after a short time on these sites. And you have every right to do the same thing. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. I'm not saying go screw every guy in a 5 mile radius, but don't stop talking to guys because you went out on one date. I know I was on after I first went out with my bf (and yes I was checking to see if he had logged on too, and he could obviously see if I was on). Ultimately, he deleted his profile after a month, and I his mine right before he deleted his.
A word of advice, don't ask him that question again. Before my bf, the last guy I met from the site kept 'jokingly' asking me about all the other dates I was going on. It got a bit annoying (and I had not gone out with anyone, no one else intersted me at the time). To me, it seemed like he was feeling me out, to see if it would be okay with me if he went out with others.
You'll get a sense of when (or if) this is going to become exclusive. If there are gaps in days that you don't speak, then you can assume there are others in contention. But honestly, as the others said, he doesn't owe you any exclusivity at this point. And you don't owe it to him either.
WHAT GIVES-??? NEED ADVICE ASAP! Shelly: OKay, so I go on to this dating website last Friday-meet someone and go out the next day. We have a great time, kiss at the end of it and an hour after I got home he was sending me text messages. He continues to send me text messages for the next few days and then nothing for two days and then another one yesterday asking where we are going to dinner.
I suggest a place and that maybe he can call me because what's up with all the text messaging back and forth so he does and then tells me he will call me TODAY to make plans for when we are going to go to dinner as he doesn't have his work schedule for the weekend in front of him and he is late for an appt. (He is a personal trainer.)
So this website that we met on, I can see when he is on and he can see when I am on and he is on a lot and doesn't email or instant message me. SO I am thinking that he is istant messaging someone else on there and isn't really all that interested in me.
So, last night I sent a funny email (as we have both been sending sarcastic msgs. back and forth) saying "you log on a lot on this site, who is my competiton ?"
and he responds "no competition."
But then I haven't heard from him today and he is online right now.
ANY IDEAS ON WHAT IS UP WITH THIS ???
I haven't dated in years and am really struggling with putting myself out there and now not knowing what the fuck is up....
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You're not the only one he's seeing. And if he's on a lot, what's it to you? I mean, you're on a lot too, right? But does he ask if he has competition?
I know you're out there trying this dating thing but maybe the first thing you should know is that one kiss should not make you feel that it's exclusive and that he should take down his profile or not log in anymore.
If he sends you a message, great. If not, then log in and find more matches.
Re: WHAT GIVES-??? NEED ADVICE ASAP! Shelly: wow. That was mean.
