how do you explain/ identify yourself?
how do you explain/ identify yourself? Mooneyes: I have a new job, so I'm meeting lots of people. I am newly divorced. I don't know how to explain it. People often ask me if I have children... because it is what you ask a woman of my age. I explain no, I'm newly divorced instead. I start saying things that I shouldn't... seems a little bit of anger towards my ex. I don't want to be bitter divorced woman. I want to be Professional Business Woman. How do you deal with this? I used to love that I could say oh my husband this oh my husband that. He is handsome and smart and blah blah blah.
I'm feeling a bit lost in identity right now.
sheydp: You don't need to explain yourself at all. You just say you are single again now, and looking forward to your work/meeting people, etc. You are a wonderful person on your own!!!
icwtsmnl: [quote author=sheyd link=topic=39276.msg428971#msg428971 date=1167246781">
You don't need to explain yourself at all. You just say you are single again now, and looking forward to your work/meeting people, etc. You are a wonderful person on your own!!!
sassonfool: Here's how I introduce myself: Grew up in the Air Force, Married the Army. Divorcing the Army. Am dating the Navy. I know that all that preaching of "be yourself" and "don't care what others think" are uber-cool but in the workplace I'd probably just say, "Hi. I'm Amy.". And take it from there :)
superwife: [quote author=Mooneyes link=topic=39276.msg428968#msg428968 date=1167246594">
I start saying things that I shouldn't... seems a little bit of anger towards my ex.
People are dumb. They think everyone fits into the typical stereotype of the 20-30 something woman. If you say you are newly divorced, you're going to get the sympathetic head nod, like they feel sorry for you. Well they shouldn't.
Definitely take 'newly' out of that statement. And as far as the kids thing goes, few (but some) may ask you why you don't. So leave it at that. "No, i don't have any kids". You don't have to justify why you don't. Right after I separated, before I started telling people, I'd get "so when are you gonna have another one"? My answer, without skipping a beat, was "I gotta find me a new father first". :D
If anyone asks you if you are married, then you say you are divorced. Plain and simple.