just so depressed Kinney26: I've felt horrible the last few days. I am very depressed. I don't have any friends to hang out with. I am very lonely. It looks like because of her I am going to have to move back in with my mom in a few months because of finances. I feel like living at home I will never get a date. The fact that don't want this divorce and the papers will be ready to sign in the next few days. I just feel like I've worked so hard in my life to get nowhere. I know I am still young, but I had almost everything I wanted except a house and now I have to start from scratch. I know I'm not going to marry the first person I meet. I am afraid of how long it is going to take just to get back to where I was, let alone ahead. I just feel like a lump of loser crap.
Re:just so depressed cloud: Be grateful you don't have a house or you'd lose that in the divorce, too.
I wouldn't worry about moving back home with mom. Any potential dates, you can just say that you moved back for awhile to get your finances in order.
They won't laugh at you. It's not like you've been living with her your whole life.
And you better not marry the first you meet or else you could wind up right back on here in a few years.
Have you thought about going to any local divorce support groups. Those are good places to meet people who are in the same boat. They frown against dating other attendees, so watch out for that.
You could always check the newspaper for people looking for roommates if you could afford doing that.
If you continue feeling like you are worthless, you might consider doing some volunteer work. You'll feel better helping people and seeing how much you are appreciated.
In terms of no friends and being lonely, that is hard. You need to try and make friends. Are there ways in your job you could make friends? You drive in your job, right? Try going to the same Starbucks every day and striking up a conversation with the people that work there.
Why not plan a trip and go see friends somewhere.
Just some ideas.
Re:just so depressed Kinney26: I know I am not worthless, I just feel loserish right now.
I've heard scary things about support groups, on this board I think, about how they are just a bunch of bitter 40 somethings bitching the whole time.
I will pull through this, I am just going through a rough stretch right now.
I thought about the roomate thing, but having a child I don't want to have a roomate I don't know or trust.
My job makes it hard to find friends because I am always on the road. I am always by myself. I've always made friends pretty easily at jobs, until this one because of the job. I just really need to get out more.
I am still in the, I feel like a loser going out by myself mode.
Thanks for caring.
Re:just so depressed cloud: I forgot about your child. I'd get a roommate, too, if it wasn't for my daughter.
I'm glad to hear that you know it's a phase. It will get better. Go get some beer and rent a good movie.
Re:just so depressed barelybreathing: Listen, you do what you have to do to survive. If anyone gives you a hard time about it, just send them to me....
Its transitional Kinney.....it does not define you or who you are as person.
Chin up.....the real losers are our cheating spouses!
BB
