hanging out as friends vs dating

hanging out as friends vs dating hopefaith: just curious what people's thoughts are as far as distinguishing between dating and hanging out as friends



Re: hanging out as friends vs dating dsuser: I do have female friends, some are from my college years, some are from many years ago...  I will be the first to accept that at the start with a couple of them I might have had different intentions, but it just developed into a friendship.  In short, unless you know a person for a while, I would not be surprised the guy thinks you might have if at least some interest... but that does not mean you cannot eventually make it more tangibly a friendship... it is just the start of it that is confusing.
 Re: hanging out as friends vs dating pluscachange: [quote author=hopefaith link=topic=42133.msg478163#msg478163 date=1173452866">
just curious what people's thoughts are as far as distinguishing between

-dating
-just meeting new people and hanging out as friends with those of the opposite sex, including just one on one

...and whether everyone accepts that this can be a blurry line? 

I guess im wondering if a guy will necessarily think i'm attracted if i suggest hanging out?  bc for me it's the opposite.  if i am suggesting we hang out, it's because i see him only as a buddy to do stuff with....if i liked him, i would hold back on that kind of stuff


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A lot of people would want to hang out and pal around with somebody they were romantically attracted to, to be honest.  If somebody was "into me" and didn't want to hang out and shoot the shit or go on a poker run or bike night, or whatever, then I'd be pretty darned uncomfortable.  If a girl suggested hanging out "one on one" I'm not sure the average guy is going to see that as an invitation to sit around and belch, fart and talk about the NHRA from buddy to buddy.
 Re: hanging out as friends vs dating superwife: [quote author=hopefaith link=topic=42133.msg478163#msg478163 date=1173452866">
I guess im wondering if a guy will necessarily think i'm attracted if i suggest hanging out?  bc for me it's the opposite.  if i am suggesting we hang out, it's because i see him only as a buddy to do stuff with....if i liked him, i would hold back on that kind of stuff
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If he doesn't know that about you, he may think you are a woman who goes after what she wants, and does not hold back on that kind of stuff.
 Re: hanging out as friends vs dating readytomoveforward: This is a very funny topic I must say..one which I can write on for hours.  My ex of 4 years..the one who I mentally planned my entire future around..broke it off about 6 months or so ago.  Since then I have really accpeted that its over and am doing quite fine with my life, but I noticed that all my female friends from before the X are all gone..and the ones during the X are now all gone because they were her friends.  So now I am stuck with 1 good female friend....def. not enough for me!

Im not ready to jump into anything with anyone right now..even if she seems like the most amazing woman in the world..I want some more time for myself b/c I know Im just not ready yet...but I do get sick of hanging out with "the guys" every night and need some females around me..atleast to look at...and bs with...so how do I draw the line at date/friends???

I must say it gets a little tricky in the beginning distinguishing how to break it to girls that I dont want anything more than a friendship with them...I only speak for myself but I always assume there is a chance with a girl if I just meet them and they want to go out...but...the key is to just be honest and not lead them on from the beginning..tell them that all you want is a friendship and then all the awkwardness is removed or should be at this point...then the real person will come out...a true friend...and if they go away...let them...they were only interested in taking you to the sack!  Thats been my experience over the past 4 months or so and have made some good friends along the way!
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