My husband has left...I want him back so badly.
Re:My husband has left...I want him back so badly. stupidgirl: I wish I was smart enough to have magic words. That is so much, break up and injury and court battle. Honey, you're going to have to find incredible strength in yourself and it won't be easy. Breathe... Don't forget that one. And also, when we're in the middle of chaos, it's hard to imagine a time when things are calm, but things have their time, tragic times like now, and then things change. Get through things as calmly and carefully as you can, try not to freak out, and think there will be a day, later on, where you can look back and say, "wow, that sucked and I got through it". Hang in there.
Re:My husband has left...I want him back so badly. seth: Listening to your story--no offense--makes me think that my crazy ex left me over nothing. I never cheated on her or anything and our problems weren't that great. That's awful what happened to you. I don't have any advice except testify against that sick bastard that did that to you.....
Okay, I'm not Dr. Phil... but you deserve better.... What instrument do you play?
Re:My husband has left...I want him back so badly. Layla: Wow. I didn't expect to get such kind and understanding responses. I know it's hard to find words to say to someone in such despair. I can't tell you how much it is appreciated...especially when I am so confused. Everyone else is telling me that my husbands actions are understandable. However, I cannot imagine and wouldn't leave someone in this manner (for LACK of a better word). It's especially hard when I am hearing this from so many and at the same time I am hearing from the court system that I am also responsible for aggravated battery. I guess my self-esteem isn't at its peak. I don't know why. I am a musician, a mathematics professor and a writer (or at least I was before the assault). I have been a bass player and singer for several years. I have had a jazz trio in town for about 10 years. . My husband, however, is a "famous" musician so I have always been "The wife of..." And now, the people that were mutual friends of ours do not talk to me anymore because I am the "crazy eccentric...OVER thinker" who drove my mild-mannered, nice, easy going husband away. I used to be very prolific and productive and now am just trying to finish a book that I have been working on for almost 5 YEARS! I have to wonder sometimes though...I'm not ugly or stupid and my husband wouldn't TOUCH me since our last reconciliation. I wasn't to hot for him either. Is it that we "think" we are being rejected? And even if we are...could that BE the core from where all the pain stems (the ego)? That's my problem a lot I think. I make a prison (of obsessive compulsiveness) in my own mind. If I make it through this, I will either be the most innovative creator ever or frontally lobotomized. At any rate...I'm lonely but nevertheless SO happy that there are people out there who are willing to read the ghastly ramblings of a polarizing personality (but kind). :)
Re:My husband has left...I want him back so badly. MadorSad: Laylaaaaaa
Hey you are in the right place. I'm the over thinker too let me give you my take. When I feel the old brane box going into over drive I get on my bike and ride you can not let your mind wonder when you are riding or you get hurt. Now you just need to find something that takes your mind over. It is that simple now the hard part there are 24 hours in a day if you can get an hour or so break and you sleep 8 the other hours are yours to think away OK (Sorry about SP)