My Story

My Story mieyedoc: OK, we are still married but it is over, and has been for sometime. Weve been together 12 yrs and married last 6, no kids, im an eye doctor shes a pharmacist. She is very beautifl on the outside, her inner side is obviously lacking.The main reason for our divorce is her inability to be intimate. She has never really been "in" the relationship. Weve had sex like 15 times in 6 yrs, sad. I cannot believe I allowed this to go on as long as I have. Ive always been faithful, not sure about her but I think so. Anyways, I think I was just ignoring the facts because I was fearful of the future. Now I realize ive actually been alone in the middle of a marriage and Id rather be alone for real than like this. Im filing for divorce next week. I love my wife but I feel there is no real connection left between us. She is really emotionally distant and seems incapable of true intimacy. It is sad, but it is time to start living again, not just exsisting.   :)
Re: My Story justmenow: Have you spoken to a therapist with your wife? Is it really a lack of intimacy, or is it that she just has a harder time being "turned on". We had the same problem in our marriage - my X had no idea what romance was and as a result the sex stopped, and then the intimacy, and then we grew apart emotionally. It's a downward spiral until you try to fix it. Just don't blame her entirely for the lack of intimacy or it will just make things worse. I felt so bad, like it was all my fault until I realized that he had a part in the problem too.

Hope that helps, but I'm definitely no expert. Best of luck with everything.
Re: My Story mieyedoc:   She is not willing to try therapy or counseling, she simply says sex and intimacy do not interest her. She could quit possibly be having an affair. It doesnt really matter anymore, ive made up my mind to move on. God Bless her and I hope she finds happieness someday. It is unhealthy for me to stay here any longer.
Re: My Story Billsfan709: What's her past? Does she have issues with her dad or stepdad? Ex boyfriends? My ex's intimacy/commiment/promiscuity issues had a lot to do with men in her past, not men in her present. You had what Newsweek call a few weeks ago a "sexless" marriage. Less than one time per month. Was it kids, etc.? How old are you? What other factors are involved? Was she bisexual?..This affected my own marriage.
Chris
Re: My Story kashoh: mieyedoc,

Sex and intimacy are huge parts of marriage.  A marriage without intimacy is a dead marriage, in my opinion.  I'm really sorry that it has come to this for you, and I wish you luck.