What do I do....

What do I do.... iharsell: A week ago today... I came home from work to find that all my husband's things were gone... the only thing that was left was a "dear Jane" letter. It stated "he couldnt do it anymore and couldnt say it to my face, he was sorry and he would contact me in 2 Sunday's from then". Needless to say this past week has been a nightmare repeating itself. We have only been married 4ths - however we have been together for almost 5yrs. There has been nothing unsual going on in our relationship - we have been the perfect happy family besides your normal relationship issues.

However - we have been working to get him a job closer to home... Thursday before he left - he had a phone interview at 11am - 12pm he called me with the good news - 1pm he called into work 4:27pm he packed his stuff and left before I got home... of course one of the ideas in my head he is scared.... but would you leave your wife because your scared of change?

I also have an 8yr old daughter who looks to my husband as her dad. She has been calling him this for years. She still does not know any of this as she has been gone on vacation. However, tonight is her first time home and I have to tell her something- although I dont know what when I dont know anything...

Since last Thursday I haven't talked to him in anyway. The first couple of days, I tried tracking him at work, but he wasnt there. I have only known of him through the daily call to his mother. Even then information has been limited.

Sunday morning another piece of drama unfolded.... I found out I was pregnant. Now not only did my husband leave, but I am carrying his child and he has no idea.... I decided to send him a letter to his work... which I did... but nothing.. no call from him... what is that left me to think?

This has left a week full of questions and debates... why? is he coming back? do I want him back? how do I tell my daughter about this when I dont have answers myself? what do I do financially? what steps do I take for her and I? What do I say when he calls me?

Yesterday - another surprise... the first nice one... he deposited 75% of his paycheck into our account.... so this means he still cares right? If it was because he was being "responsible"....he would have deposited it last Friday when he was paid... right?

As you can see I am full of unanswered questions right now. And my feeling is just - loss..... :'(


Re: What do I do.... leigh: I'm so sorry. I can't really answer any of your questions, sorry. Just wanted you to know I'm sending you hugs.
Re: What do I do.... snkpack: Ditto.  I'm not sure what to say.  Please keep posting as details unfold.  Maybe we'll be able to help more at that point. 

Hang in there.