How can he think this is OK?

How can he think this is OK? marcy: As some of you may remember, when my exhusband wants to speak with our daughter, he sends a text message asking her to call him.  When she does not call back quickly enough, he sends another one saying "Please have her call me back soon, I can't talk to her later."  This irritates me beyond belief.  How could he think that I would bend over backward to have my daughter call him so quickly just because he doesn't want to be disturbed on his dates.  Does he really think I should help him out in that way?

Second, how could he say that his 5 year old shouldn't call him because he's going on a date?  Do you think he does this purposely?  I really don't think he does - I think he thinks that I should really oblige his wishes.  Furthermore, it irritates me b/c then I spend the rest of the night wondering what he is doing then?

Any help, anyone?  This really bothers me.
Re: How can he think this is OK? DarrenB: [quote author=marcy link=topic=50452.msg615466#msg615466 date=1196108208"> Any help, anyone?  This really bothers me.
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Yeah. Ignore the assh**e's text mesages. Don't give in, don't appease him by telling your daughter to call him on his terms, and don't give him what he wants.  Do not oblige his wishes anymore, dammit! By doing what he wants and playing the game, he is still controlling you two years after your divorce.

He is playing his typical bs games and everything he does, he does  to irritate you and  to get under your skin. Can you see that?  Why don't you take back some control? Next time he does that and pulls that crap---your daughter can talk to him tommorow.
 Re: How can he think this is OK? Zeke: Simply tell him that you are not trying to be difficult, but it bothers you to broker their conversations. Tell him you want him to call her when it is convenient for him to call, but he will need to deal with the realities of his, yours, and your daughter's schedules, just like all people who want to talk on the phone do.

The easiest way not to violate your boundaries is to just stop.


 Re: How can he think this is OK? damagedgoods: [quote author=Mugged By Fluffy link=topic=50452.msg615468#msg615468 date=1196108765">
[quote author=marcy link=topic=50452.msg615466#msg615466 date=1196108208"> Any help, anyone?  This really bothers me.
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Yeah. Ignore the assh**e's text mesages. Don't give in, don't appease him by telling your daughter to call him on his terms, and don't give him what he wants.  Do not oblige his wishes anymore, dammit! By doing what he wants and playing the game, he is still controlling you two years after your divorce.

He is playing his typical bs games and everything he does, he does  to irritate you and  to get under your skin. Can you see that?  Why don't you take back some control? Next time he does that and pulls that crap---your daughter can talk to him tommorow.
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AGREED!

[quote"> Do you think he does this purposely?  I really don't think he does - I think he thinks that I should really oblige his wishes.[/quote">  

Yes he is still trying to control you.

[quote"> Furthermore, it irritates me b/c then I spend the rest of the night wondering what he is doing then?[/quote">

And it works!

I got an idea tell him that your daughter will call him if/when she wants to IF it is convenient for you.
Stop letting him play is fucking games with you Marcy or you daughter will be 17 and you will still be posting about his bullshit.

 Re: How can he think this is OK? rabbie52: Hi, hope you don't mind me putting my oar in here.

I personally think it could be you he wants to talk to not your daughter, but that's just my opinion.

rabbie52
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