Spousal Support to Ex-Husband 2timetee: What is my best legal defense against my ex-husband receiving spousal support. In the state of Ohio, my Attorney says, the courts cannot discriminate against the male. Since I make a substantial amount of money more that the ex-to-be, and he is asking for it, the judge can grant it. (And probably will.)
I don't think I should have to pay since the ex wracked up so much credit card debt. He also took all of the bank statements out of the mail and got rid of them so I couldn't find out what he was up to. Therefore, I do not have very many statements to prove what he has done.
Re: Spousal Support to Ex-Husband Maxwell: 2timetee,
I'm not a lawyer, so this is just my feeling about it. First, I'm not sure if the statements can be considered as proof. But I would hope that if they are, you could use the statements you have to at least get the spousal support reduced. Also, with my credit cards, I can call them and get copies of past statements for a small fee. If he still has access to your mailbox, you could get a post office box so that they would be mailed to a box that only you have access to. You might want to check and see if you can do this, but I would first ask the attorney if the statements hold any weight in court before taking those steps. While I find it interesting to see an actual case where a woman may have to pay spousal support, I agree that you shouldn't have to pay spousal support to someone who was financially irresponsible, and who according to one of your other posts stole money from you by taking your debit card. I'd think that if you could prove the stealing you'd have more 'ground' to stand on. If most of the debt he wracked up is on accounts that were jointly held, you might not have much leeway. I wish you luck.
Maxwell.
Re: Spousal Support to Ex-Husband totallyconfused: I know you posted a while ago, but I'm interested to know what happened. See I'm also the richer spouse (because I get off my butt and go to my job!) and was going to have to pay him maintenance, but shucks, I'm getting laid off so now he's the richer spouse...... So what happened with you?
Re: Spousal Support to Ex-Husband 2timetee: I am still waiting for the final hearing. It is not until aug. 12. I hope that at that time the judge will see that he can make it without my support. Sometimes I wonder if I should have quit my job to make him take his responsibilities, but I know he wouldn't and I'd be on welfare instead.
I will lose the house if I have to pay him spousal support. I am about to go broke without child support as it is.
Re: Spousal Support to Ex-Husband 5years: Can't your bank give you back statements? They may not hold up in court (I don't know), but they may hold up in an argument with him.
I am in the same boat, except that my earnings are not that much more than my husband's and he has a master's degree (I don't), so I don't think he will get alimony. He has done all the spending and I have done all the saving, and he thinks we should split the assets 50-50. A couple of lawyers have told me I don't have much hope of getting more than that.
I totally agree you should not have to pay if he was the spender, so I would gather evidence of his spending if I were you. Good luck.
