inlaws yeffer: Hey everyone,
I was wondering if anyone has any advice on dealing with the s2b inlaws.
Now mine have for the most part been really great letting me know they still love me and no matter what I will stil be a part of their family but I'm jsut wondering if that is really possible.
My marriage broke up basically because my s2bx cheated and was very controlling. He has already moved on to start his life anew. He's moved in with the OW and they have children. So is it actually possible that I can still have a good relationship with his family and not jsut make things worse for everyone involved?
Re: inlaws tulay: Do you and your sbx have children of your own? If so, you do need to make an effort to keep a friendly relationship with your sbx - inlaws. BUT, I believe that relationship should be mainly focused around your children.
If you don't have kids with your sbx than I might avoid the relationship with you sbx inlaws. Unless there is a sibling in there that you are great friends with or something. You may be able to pull that off. You just need to be sure to avoid all discussions of your sbx. He may have been an a** but he is still their blood relative and it really isn't a good idea to discuss him or your marriage with his family. In the end, they'll always side with him, even if they don't say so to your face.
Tulay
Re: inlaws yeffer: Tulay,
No my s2bx and i dont have any children together. But I always had a very close relationship with his sister and his parents.
I do however know that the only possible way to remain close is if we can agree that the s2bx is not to be discussed with them. I was just hoping that I wouldn't have to lose my extended family because of his mistakes. It just doesn't seem fair. I do love the inlaws very much and to lose them too alog with my s2bx is just hard to fathom.
But thanx for your honesty I really apprecitae it.
Yeff
Re: inlaws Marb_Man: My inlaws are really sucking. I don't think they care about our family even the kids grandma and grandpa on her side do nothing to try and even contact the kids. How sad. Two of the most wonderful boys in the world. Is it there way of punishing me?
Who knows. To all the aunts and uncles and grandmas and grandpas that dont care out there and whoever else. If you neglect your family because of one person. SHAME ON YOU.
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Re: inlaws yeffer: inprogress,
That truly is a horrible thing. My s2bx and I don't have any kids but I can't even imagine that anyone would turn there backs on their own flesh and blood just because of a divorce. I'm truly sorry for you and your children.
God bless you.
Yeff
