Rebound relationships??? totallyconfused: I've been reading about dating, moving on, INCT's therapy and I'm just confused. I've been sort of dating this guy. He's really nice. He knows everything I've been through and he knows I'm not ready for a relationship so he's not pressuring me for one. BUT the more I hang out with him the more I like him - he's so many things my ex wasn't and I'm totally loving it. My friends are saying to just enjoy what it is now and don't worry about everything. But I can't help it. What if I fall for this guy and get my heart broken again.... I guess I'm just scared. Anyone else know what I'm talking about?
TC
Re: Rebound relationships??? Finley: TC,
This may not be relevant because I have only been separated for over 2 months but I am in a new relationship with a man who has been my friend for 2 years.
We are taking it slow and easy and it is very scary. I have very strong feelings for him and I really hope that it isn't a rebound relationship. What does that mean anyway? Is any relationship with a person right after breaking up with someone a rebound? Do some rebound relationships work out?
It's all very confusing. I am just trying to follow my feelings and be honest with myself. I hope that it works out but I have to be open to the possibility that it won't for either one of us (he is also separated). What a mess somedays!
Re: Rebound relationships??? Brian75034: "...and I really hope that it isn't a rebound relationship. What does that mean anyway?"
I would think a 'rebound relationship' is where one goes right into another relationship with another person right after a relationship with another ends. I think they mean 'rebound' in the fact that lots date someone else right after because they want someone with them, or the relationship, for whatever reason (emotional support, something to do, sex).
I would think they dont work out all the time because the reasons that person got into another relationship are not neccesarily the same reasons a person would choose someone if they were already on their own and was figuring out who they wanted to date and taking their time, etc.
But, who know, I could be wrong! :P
Brian
Re: Rebound relationships??? totallyconfused: Maybe I didn't state clearly my concern. The more time I spend with him the more I see he's all these things my ex was not - what if that's the only reason I like him? What if that 's not enough and we both get hurt......
Maybe I'm just still insecure about the whole thing.
And scared.
TC
Re: Rebound relationships??? Brian75034: "...The more time I spend with him the more I see he's all these things my ex was not - what if that's the only reason I like him? What if that 's not enough and we both get hurt......
Maybe I'm just still insecure about the whole thing.
And scared.
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And THAT is exactly why a relationship is probably not the best for you right now. I know its not for me- the thought of relationships, being close to someone, scare the hell out of me right now and so I dont do it.
But, you are a grown adult and have to make your own choices. I wish you the best of luck!
Brian
