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Re:Need Advice devochic: Tell her the truth. Tell her you love her, but you can not live next to her family. If that was the problem, it doesn't sound that difficult to resolve.
If there was no infidelity, abuse, only misunderstandings....have the strength to address them. She probably honestly thinks there was someone else...and trust me her family is probably loading her head with bad ideas. Talk to her. Really talk with her. Be open and honest.
Marriages have survived much worse than this. Best of luck to you.
Re:Need Advice Bug: I'm not sure what to tell you about your wife :( But you need to take steps to make sure you see your girls. They need daddy. I wish you all the possible best. Be well
Bug
Re:Need Advice dolbaby1977: women read letters fast, and we rread amd reread them. we think we need to read between the lines on everything. now, she thinks she has the "ball" in her court. you have confessed your love( which is good) now she can go to sleep easily at night knowing that u r now misearbale with out her. women are funny about that. we 2 people separate, for sum odd reason when teh other is not happy , we are. its crazy i know. however, if she loves u, and u really love her. you do need to talk. talk about the future 2gether, and where u will live. i wish i could get a letter like that from my ex. she needs to appreciate the time you took to write it, and that u wrote it from your heart. she is your wife, she needs to be w u, but dont fight over silly things, these are games, and in the end, who wins? nobody. i know if my hubby wasnt happy livig wehre we were i would move,, and i did..all the way across country(literally). u do things to make your spouse happy, and sumtimes it doesnt mean whats best for you, but whats best for her,, the both of u..wha it that bad living next door to them9 i mean i know privacy would be an issue, but were the kids happy to have family they could run across to?? hope all works out, take care
Re:Need Advice lifechange: I agree w/dolbaby in regards to how I would respond to such a letter. First I would rush to open it, I would read it, then read it again, put it down to think about it, then read it again to make sure I understood it. Then I would take at least an hour to analyze it (marf, i know I am killing you ;D). I would spend a few hours questioning his motives. Then I would call a friend, read it to her, and ask her to analyze it.
To be quick about it: it would take me a while to absorb it, especially if it was the first attempt to reconcile. So, although I know this is hard, be patient. This letter might come as a huge shock to her, so just give her time to absorb it. Best of luck that the phone call comes ;)
lc
