Marriage - Huh - What is it Good For - Absolutely Nothin' Runehawk: Marriage - Huh - What is it Good For - Absolutely Nothin'
If the Gods smile on me, I might be lucky enough for my heart to heal sufficiently to give it again; unlikely as that seems right now.
But that thought lead me to ask: what good does marriage do for a man?
I mean, outside of perhaps taxes and giving your spouce the legal ability to pull the plug on your deathbed, what possible benefit is there?
There are all kinds of benefits to a woman, but overall, why in the world did I propose to her other than to make her happy? Where did *I* benefit in having my life consumed, chewed on, and finally spit out?
She's walking away with my love, my child, my money, and my committments to the State ad infinitum. I'm getting ulcerated, screwed, and the guarantee of an early stress-related death.
I just don't see absolutely any good in marriage - for a man.
Rebuttals? Opinions?
Re:Marriage - Huh - What is it Good For - Absolutely Nothin' brokenman: Marriage does one important thing for a man. It keeps him from being a dirty old man someday. The last thing I want to be is some lonely, wrinkly, angry-at-the-world pervert. I'd much rather be the warm, aged grandfather who is somehow soft-yet-rough man of a different age that grandchildren can somehow be inspired by.
I think the ending to Raising Arizona says it all.
Re:Marriage - Huh - What is it Good For - Absolutely Nothin' Runehawk: Absolute nonsense! Are you saying that across-the-board all dirty-old male perverts have never been or by definition cannot be married?
The end of "Raising Arizona"? Sure, I remember: Copyright 1987, all rights reserved. Then the theatre lights came up. ;D
Re:Marriage - Huh - What is it Good For - Absolutely Nothin' dj: Yikes, awfully cynical but probably with good reason.
For me, marriage gives me the chance to have a home. Sure, I have a house, I have two great kids, but it just doesn't seem like a home to me without having someone to share it with. Could I just live with someone without being married? Not to sure that I could. I have something in me that says I desire to be married to be "complete" if that isn't too corny.
We've all been hurt, and I have felt the same thing as you hawk...but personally, I can't give up on the idea of marriage.
dj
Re:Marriage - Huh - What is it Good For - Absolutely Nothin' marfanoidus: Rune,
You're just angry right now, and submersed in the effects of a relationship with the wrong person gone bad.
You know deep down that men need women - we are not complete without them.
just give it some time, learn the lessons life is trying to teach you right now, and someday you will warm up to them again.
good luck to you,
walt
