The Virus Paul: I’m having the weirdest day. I thought I was doing so well not thinking about her. It’s been a month since I had my last emotional “mini-breakdown”. After that, things got better. Here I am again, where, seemingly out of nowhere, all I can think about is how much I miss her, how I would give anything to have her back. It feels like a virus that went dormant, but gained strength over time. The virus is back today with a vengeance. The only thing that feels natural to me is to beg for reconciliation. Nothing else is remotely appealing to me, not exercise, not work, not friends. Is something inside of me telling me there’s still a chance to be together again?
Re:The Virus marfanoidus: Its normal. These pangs stike most of us every so often - like someone who quit smoking still gets the urge even after years of not smoking.
Maybe you should call her?
Maybe you focus on why the two of you split up?
Maybe you're not accepting the finality of it?
Maybe you're realizing it was a mistake?
Maybe you're a glutton for punishment?
Analyze your feelings, try to hear what they're trying to tell you.
good luck to you,
walt
Re:The Virus Kinney26: I think we all have or have had that little voice that tells us there is still a chance. Unfortunately the voice that matters, the stbx's, is saying there is no chance. You were in love with someone for a long time and it is hard to think that it is really over. I will admit that I still love my stbx after 6 months of separation. I will be divorced in less than month and I will still love her or at least who she was. It is just going to take a long time to get over it completely and come to terms with the fact that she isn't that person anymore.
Kin
