Cheaters are insecure, irresponsible, ignorant ignoramuses
Bottomline-- I wish I could have one wish. That wish would not be for world peace it would be for honest relationships. If I could wave my wand and ask that all people kept it honest. I think that many other problems would dissipate. Think of the movie "Liar Liar" where you could only tell the truth...interesting huh?
Re:Cheaters are insecure, irresponsible, ignorant ignoramuses brokenman: You left out selfish. Personally, I think that fills the gap in your thinking. You made the mistake of assuming that a cheating even thinks about their spouse, even in an evil way. I think you have to go no further into a cheater's mind than the phrase, "Gee. This feels good." Whether it be physical or emotional they only look to what feels good for them. Thinking about a spouse would just cause guilt and guilt does not feel good.
Re:Cheaters are insecure, irresponsible, ignorant ignoramuses jen: RhondaM,
One more thing to add to the list. Cheating/dishonesty is disrespectful...In my case, I'm also thinking that my stbx didn't have the integrity and strength to end our marriage in an honorable way. So, cheating was the bridge that got him out. I also think he felt safe because he had someone else to turn to, so he didn't actually have to leave to be on his own...
I agree w/ BM. They aren't thinking about their spouse when they cheat, only about themselves...
I second your wish for honest relationships!
Re:Cheaters are insecure, irresponsible, ignorant ignoramuses favoriteangel2003: Rhodam71,
I wish I could understand where people are coming from when the do make up there mind and cheat on their spouse. I don't understand and it makes me very sick thinking about it. I have just been put through hell from my husband(ex) read my story if you want to know the whole situation (My Life Just Fell Apart Tonight). Two nights ago my life did fall apart and now I have to get a divorce because I can't trust him anymore. Without trust you have nothing..!!! But everything else can be worked on in a marriage if you ask me. I wish I knew why people did that...but then again maybe I don't.
But I understand and agree with your post....it sucks when people who are suppose to love you the most betray you. :-[
Re:Cheaters are insecure, irresponsible, ignorant ignoramuses richmds: Yes I agree its selfish, disrespectful, and worse of all very hurtful to others.
I always thought about this when in a relationship and thought if I would do this and my thoughts were always to end 1 relationship before starting the other out of respect for both parties. Plus who wants to deal with getting discovered, possible moments of insanity resulting from it, constant hiding and worrying, etc...
But I guess for some thats their way of living.