Update JBH1970: I have been seperated after almost 3 years of marriage for about 2 months now. Have signed papers and sent them back to her lawyer. Had to get house refinanced to get her name off note and also pay her 1/2 of our equity. Will close on refinancing on Aug 8. Still feel very anxious and emotoionally a wreck. Beating myself up because I am not in better shape emotionally. Any encouragement or advice from anyone out there seeking therapy. How is it helping you? Whay advice are you getting? Am I just expecting to feel good to fast. Thanks for any replies. God life is so hard and out of control it seems.
Re: Update grober: JBH1970,
Divorce is VERY hard. I was an emotional train wreck through much of it. Give yourself a break. Let yourself be sad, emotional, angry, whatever. You will heal faster if you let yourself experience the emotions now. I know things look bleak, but the will get better.
I highly recommend thearpy to anyone going through a divorce. Many people first expereince counciling in response to a divorce. It drastically improved my recovery time. If you haven't checked into it, you should.
Take it one day at a time. You will get through this.
Re: Update notmyself: i am actually going to my couseling appointment today, been going for i guess a little more than a month. there is not one thing i can say that therapy has helped me with, other than being an unbiased sounding board, but i am feeling better. i reccomend going to anyone who is having a hard time dealing with the feelings they are having.
