daughters mood swings lisaAnn: I am just about ready to lose it...or maybe i already did!!! My daughter's mood swings are absolutly horrible! She is either off the chart obnoxious, or down in the gutter depressed. I don't know when the last time was that her temperment was even keil. She is 8 years old, but starting to develop, this couldn't be early pms 24/7 ???
Help!!!! i am about to call the doc for meds for ME so i can handle HER moods!!!!
Re: daughters mood swings Marb_Man: Hello Lisa,
I am dealing with moods swings with my oldest son 11. He just is acting out of control lately and I have been assigning him chores. I think he is feeling rejected by his mother and that is causing it. I get so mad at him when he starts being a brat. To control him I try to talk with him and give him hugs a lot when he least expects it. Extra love works I think for me and him. Now the youngest at 5 does not want me to leave whenever anyone in my family stops by he go's into this freak out session and runs to his room crying and thinking I am going to leave him with grandma and grandpa. He is so afraid of losing his dad now that his Mom has left. >:(
Re: daughters mood swings Lisaf: Counselling! If you can do it!
If you can't...start trying to figure out what the feelings are. Kids act out when they are afraid and feel out of control and very anxious. My kids are younger but I'm starting to learn pressure points that lead to conflict. For example, my 5 year old feels very shuffled around so she has a hard time leaving one place for another. I've started discussingwith her how we will deal with the upcoming departure well in advance. In other words I might say: "Madeline, I understand you have a hard time when you get rushed to go to the sitter's in the morning because you don't want to be away from me. We are going to have to leave in 1/2 an hour. How can we make it go better today than last time?" Then I have to walk away and let the idea percolate around in her head until she talks to me about it.
They need space to talk about their feelings in a constructive and safe environment. On the other hand...take some solace in the fact that by acting out they are showing you that they trust you to be able to handle their feelings.
Some good book recommendations:
How to talk so kids will listen, and listen so kids will talk
Raising your spirited child
Kids, Parents and Power Struggles
Re: daughters mood swings Marb_Man: The most time I have spent reading is the newspaper But with all of these new things happening in my life I think it would be a very good idea to bury my head into a few good books on learning more about children. I might even pick up a desert book when I go there. I am becoming a better cook now.:)
Re: daughters mood swings lisaAnn: Thanks for the understanding and advice. I can't afford counselling, but i need to go!! Lex is dealing with the recent change with her fathers work. He lost his job near home, and has gone to missouri. He said it's only temporary, but his trips are anywhere from 3 weeks to a month long. She was used to seeing him three weekends in a row. He didn't even make it home for her birthday on friday. He is a good dad, and is trying to support his family, he also has a wife, and two other children to her. but an eight year old can only understand so much. I realize this, i just need to be able to handle these mood swings. I took her with me to a sleepover with my 6th grade girls from church. She even had mood swings there. I try to be consistant and understanding, but that is sooooo tough.
In progress...should i contact Julia Childs to see if i can get you on her show?? ;D ;D ;D
