New Thoughts.......... tyrogers: Ok guys, having a bad day and starting to really think about things. As you all know, my STBXH cheated on me with his ex-wife and possibly has a bastard child because of it. We are waiting on the DNA results which will be in our mailbox on or around the 20th. WELLL.....I have been thinking and regardless of the outcome of the parent of this child, I don't think I want him. I mean, why would I want someone who would cheat on me before we had even been married for three short years? Know what I mean? I have been thinking that I will be better off in the long run without him anyway. It will hurt for quite a while, but I just don't know if I would ever be able to trust him again. Period. To top it off, today is his 30th birthday and he is catching an attitude with me about little things. Like I have done or said something wrong. I did not bring this on him! He did that himself.
I know I am rambling. I know I am just a hurt woman who is going to change her thoughts every freaking hour, but I am really thinking that would be the best thing for me (and my children).
Any opinions?
Tyleena ("Ty")
Way Down South in 'Bama
Re:New Thoughts.......... rhondam71: Tyleena: I truly hope that you work through this...you have been very supportive to many others ansd you certainly need this to end well for you. On a side note...wouldn't you feel pissy if someone referred to your child as a "bastard"...I know that's the old school term, but I wish it would be laid to rest. Parents should be called bastards for their deeds, no children should be labelled for the screw ups.
Re:New Thoughts.......... Runehawk: Tyleena: Do you like to pull the band-aid off quick or slow? - r
Re:New Thoughts.......... RecoveringinDE: My personal belief is if they did it once, it is always in the back of their heads that it can be done and most likely, it will happen again. I told my ex that once he slept with his OW, there would be no chance for us. He slept with her, I will not go back to him. And have told everyone who asked me the question "Is there any hope for either of you?" No, absolutely none.
As for the child, I have to agree with Rhondam. I personally am offended when I hear the phrase "bastard child" I know that you are in pain, but that is through no fault of the child. The parents are the ones who couldn't keep their pants zipped.
RiDE
