Re:Warning Signs? amess: Don't beat yourself up for being "stupid" Hindsight is 20/20, we all know that. Plus, there were good parts, at least in my marriage, many wonderful parts that clouded what I could have seen. I began to see the last year. If I had seen in the beginning, or soon after my marriage, then I WOULD beat myself up for being stupid; I certainly wouldn't stay for, oh, 6 or 7 years of abuse. I would have been the one divorcing him.
Re:Warning Signs? moser: I know exactly what you are referring to. I've really given myself a hard time for being "stupid"putting up with it for 10 years. My stbx knew that I took my marriage vows seriously and that I didn't really consider divorce as an option. Instead of realizing the depth of my committment, he really just viewed that as an excuse to treat me how ever he wanted.
I hope I've learned. But my fear is that I haven't.
Warning Signs? LettinGo: Just curious ...
After all has been said and done, I now see that I had SO many warning signs that my STBX was not really the person he pretended to be, playing a role, so to speak. At the time, the 'signs' seemed SO small, but now they seem SO huge that I would be mortified to tell you the things that I had overlooked in the past.
Am I the only one? Did anyone else see any warning signs that, at the time, didn't really trigger any concerns?
Kelly
Re:Warning Signs? AloneandCold: Yes I saw many, many warning signs, but I mostly dismissed them. I didn't think they meant anything big. If I had only paid attention I would have realized his true character. Live and learn?
Re:Warning Signs? LettinGo: I suppose you are right ... Live and Learn ... but I can't help but be so angry at myself for wasting six years of my life with this fool! And really, it is nobody's fault but my own for not seeing clearly sooner.
