stbxw parents. should i send? hardened_heart1970: first of all, my stbxw parents think something different went on. 90% of whats in here, they dont know. should i send to clarify the situation, to just have a little closier?
dear parents,
it started out, and your daughter was wonderful. we fit like two peas in a pod. i loved your daughter way more than you have ever. i have been there for her always. where were you? how about when you barb, told her to calm down after she just had her wisdom teeth out, and was crying because it hurt? you told her i cant hurt that much... how about when your daughter, did not tell you that YOUR friend molested her, and her sister, because she said youd say it was their fault. i WAS the one, who held YOUR daughter, and reassured her as long i live no one would ever hurt her. SHE NEVER told you that 2 guys ra**d her, because you guys dont care. you have not even confronted your friend that did that to YOUR DAUGHTER. what good parents you are. before, i would have ripped the guys heart out his azz. what about the fact that your oldest GRAND DAUGHTER is 7.5 years old, and you do not have 1 single toy, high chair, car seat, play pen? how about last year when we gave you 3.00 sippy cups you brought them back the next day? why do you think ALL your kids wanted to move out so fast? its you. also, i absouletly do not appreciate your attitude towards me, and definately not the tone of voice you use with my kids. they are your grand kids. now for the info you dont know.
first, i caught your daughter leaving A.L. house one morning when we were seperated. how about your daughter was scared to tell you we filed for bankrupcy 3 years ago. did she tell you about how she was 1 hour more coming home from a meeting, that people saw here leave at the same time with, and told me she had to talk to the boss. did she tell you that she has has A.L. spend most of the night at her new house? how about when she had his pick up? bet she never told you she smokes, did she? how about her draining our bank accounts, and having a PO box, i also found a bra in the yukon, and know she is REALLY close to one of her child hood girl friends, if you know what i mean. also, did you know that kelly is a nut? i had to go get her at 4 am becasue she thought her own bf was trying to shoot her. she is nuts.
so, id really like to thank you for treating me like sh*it. i do appreciate it. i love(D) your daughter more than you have ever, and its too bad that she will turn out just like you. and if your scrawny azz brother gets in my face again, i will have no patience with him, and he will go from 6 foot 4 to 5 foot 9 in about 2.5 milli seconds. also, im sick and frigin tired, of hearing your voice on the phone when my daughter calls, yelling or mis treating MY, I SAID MY KIDS. they are not your kids. you better gain so respect and treat them better. and thank you for raising such a cheating, low life, piece of sh*it lying bit*ch of a woman you raised. and to the dad. thanks for being such a man, to come see me, and talk to help us get through this. you are a coward, and you are scared of your wife. grow some nuts, and be a man, you BIT*CH....
how do you turn a dishwasher into a snow blower?
give her a shovel.
Re:stbxw parents. should i send? hardened_heart1970: ANY ONE? im really thinking about sending. any help? her parents dont know the whole story. suggestions would be appreciated. thanks dan
Re:stbxw parents. should i send? jen: hh,
IMHO, I don't think sending this letter would be productive. It might make you feel better for a little while to open their eyes, but in the long run, I just think that it will increase the animosity between you and them. Regardless of how sh!tty they are, they are still your children's grandparents and it seems like they have some sort of relationship with them at this point. I also don't think they would listen or hear what you have to say in the letter, they would probably only see all the anger in the letter and get defensive.
If you want to talk to them about the way that they treat your kids, that's another thing altogether. I think that you can let them know that this is a difficult time for the kids and that the kids need their love and support right now...and also let them know about your concerns about the way they are treating your kids...you can't make them change the way they act...you can only control your actions and part in this...
It sounds like they see the kids when they are at your stbxw's place...it may not change anything, so if your kids are upset about the way their grandparents treat them, I guess the only thing you can do is to help lessen the hurt for them by being a constant for them, letting them know how much they are loved and making sure they know they are worth being treating in loving and respectful ways.
just my two cents, hh...but I just don't think that sending this letter will get the results you want.
mtmo
Re:stbxw parents. should i send? down south xhubbie: HH,
If you send this letter, you can never take some of this stuff back. Reading it does shed alot of light on your wife's mental state of mind. I can't imagine people treating their kids and grandkids that way. Also, if her mother is so in denial that she overlooked the r@pe, it's not likely that this letter will bring her to her senses as you hope. In fact, a letter like this would only build anomosity toward you and put them on the defensive. It may even cause, God forbid, a restraining order of some kind against you.
See my letter to the inlaws also posted on this forum
I'm glad I didn't send it. I've had to exchange my son with them on two different occasions since then. :o
Re:stbxw parents. should i send? raistlynne: IMHO, I wouldn't send it. They sound like blind, uncaring, heartless people and I don't think it would open their eyes in the slightest bit. Their hearts are frozen solid to the point where only a higher power could ever break through.
I get angry when I hear about people like these because it is obvious they should never have been parents, and I'm sure something is going on between them that can't be all that healthy. How could someone allow their own children to be abused in any way if they were "right" in the head. Not to make excuses for them or anything, but I suspect they aren't being too flattering when they talk about you in front of your kids. This letter can't hurt heartless, thoughtless, and just all-around nasty people, but it will hurt the children who are bound to hear all about it later.
I say you should just give these creeps the bird and help me rally for reproductive licenses... they can be just like driver's licenses only better because if you fail the test, you get forced into exile somewhere in Alaska buck naked. ;D
