I don't know how jjbswest: I don't know how to move on. I do have things I think of doing. Such as fixing the house up the way I have always wanted to. Or getting me a single woman's car . LOL. I had a van which he will probably not pay for, so I have been thinking of getting something I really want. something to make me feel good. my dad is an auto mechanic and sells cars so i could probably find something that I am wanting and get a good deal too. anyway, that's what is in my mind right now.
Re:I don't know how bamboo: jjbswest-
I can totally understand where you are coming from - especially with the car thing! As soon as I could, I got a new car. When I was married I had a 4-door Saturn (ugh...). Last spring I bought a black GrandAm with sunroof and it is probably the best thing I've ever bought for myself.
Just take baby steps. Its very easy to make a long mental list of everything you want to change, or should change. Just start with one thing, otherwise its too easy to get overwhelmed and then give up on all of it.
Re:I don't know how jjbswest: it's funny you should say a black grand am cuz he has one that is really sharp.
Re:I don't know how jen: jjbswest,
It takes time to figure out how to move on... I remember back at the beginning of my separation, I could barely contemplate making decisions about what to do next! It is so hard to go from thinking about the "we" to just thinking about yourself and what you want.
Give yourself time to figure out what you want and need. Remember you can only do one thing at a time...baby steps like Jerseygirl said! It would be so easy to get overwhelmed thinking of all the possibilities.
take care,
mtmo
Re:I don't know how dj: I did something as small as buy myself a hat that I knew my stbx would say was goofy. I like hats and unless it was a baseball cap, it was goofy. Guess what she said when she saw me in it...yep, it was goofy. I just said, oh yeah, well I like it.
Also, I did karaoke on New Years Eve...first time ever. Something else that my stbx would say was dumb.
