Seeing the wrong guy with the right girl OldSchool: I've seen so many different things the past couple of years now that I'm single again. Why do the wrong guys hookup with the nicest, friendlyist, and most attractive women. What do they say? What's the attraction? Cant they see through the bs?
About 5 years ago K, started on my database team and almost every guy took an interest. A manager from another team was still married but put out the signals to her. After he divorced, he then moved in and started dating her. He was rumored to have made sexual advances to a number of attractive women on his team and throughout the company. I've seen him hit on married women at work at the bar we all hang out in. It was no surprise to me that I considered him an a-hole from the start. All his friends at work were the same way, and he didn't get along with most of the guys on the database teams. He's not liked at all. He walks around all 5' 6'' of him like a little prick. Well he just married K over the summer and already seems to be moving on.
WTF??? Now K, is a hard worker and demanding, but attractive and is very cool. Is it just that she's the same way as him, or do women really like a-holes?
OS
Re:Seeing the wrong guy with the right girl favoriteangel2003: WTF??? Now K, is a hard worker and demanding, but attractive and is very cool. Is it just that she's the same way as him, or do women really like a-holes?
OS
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To answer you question....NO!!!!!!!!!!! At least I can say I don't. Who wants a man like that? I bet if you ask K if she like being treated like that from A$$holes she would tell you the same thing.
Sadly, I think it all comes down to the person who is getting involved with the A$$holes...they need more self~confidence and ALOT more self~respect for themselves and some will hit a point where they have had enough of people like that and some never will. :(
If someone is lacking the self respect and self confidence in themselves these A$$holes really come in to play...in other words...the bull$hit really seems believable (at the time) to a person who is severly lacking any respect for themselves. So in other words...SADLY....the a$$hole and the nice person usually go hand in hand. :-\
I see it going both ways almost just as much...whether it be Man (A$$) and Woman (Nice) or Woman(A$$) and Man (Nice). It is really sad....
I hope this makes sense....
Angel :)
Re:Seeing the wrong guy with the right girl in_search_of: I have to agree that the answer is no, but it is a common misconception, I was talking (read flirting) with a guy in an off handed way the other night, and he was raising the blinds (we were playing poker) and I asked him if he was pure evil. Actually I might have told him he was pure evil. Either way, he says, no, if I was pure evil I would have a girlfriend. Well, aside from being slightly taken aback because I then realized that I was flirting and he was responding in a different way than normal...but I digress...
He truly belived that girls only like the ones who are arses. Of course, sometimes it looks that way, and sometimes the ones that guys think are arses are not really. Its amazing how the guys that are labeled arses, can be amazing people most of the time, and are still labeled that way (and I have dated a few of those).
Re:Seeing the wrong guy with the right girl OldSchool: Angel & ISO, point taken that it's the perception of the person who has the viewpoint. I'm just speaking of a current incident at work that really bothers me. Last week we had a skeleton crew and I had to work solely with K to get alot of stuff done. K's new hubby seemed to always walk around our area just checking in. Now he never, ever comes around our group, but this particular week he had to show his face. I'd personally like nothing better than to meet him out in the parking lot and give him the first three swings. I have to work with K to get my stuff done. I'm not even remotely interested in her, knowing she's married and I'm too busy doing stuff for her. She's like a mini-boss at work, and it drives me nuts. I respect the work attitude, but can't stand what she's done to herself.
I've never said anything to her face, but some of my other friends warned her about him even while they were dating. She really chose him over a bunch of great friends that had her best interest at heart. There's no way I would say anything... I have my own life.
Since my ex got busy at her work, I guess this hits me a little harder than to most people. It's really no big deal, but I just hope that those people that take advantage of others, get it back to themselves in their face.
It really doesn't effect how I do my job, but it just seems like a-holes get away with so much.
OS
