Re:Confused NoEscape: devochic. Its very hard to let go but I think you owe it to yourself. You deserve better---I dont know your entire history but it sounds like he has made his choice. If you really want him back....let him come back. After he is done with her...but even then I would not trust him. Find someone who is deserving of your love and affections.
Confused devochic: My STBX emailed me yesterday. They were simple words telling me he's okay, sorry, and wishing me the best for the future (implied a future with out him). He has not wanted to reconcile (except once for about 12 hours before destroying my heart yet again). He has yet to remove his female "friend" from his life or even admit she was unhealthy for our marriage. (aka 500 text messages in one month, multiple visits until after midnight, I was not allowed to visit or even know her address, etc)
I guess I just do not know what to do. My heart thinks maybe he's reaching out (her the denial), but his actions scream otherwise. Maybe he just wants to be friends, but I can't do that. It would have to be all or nothing. Anything else would destroy the small amount of sanity I have regained the past few months. It is so hard to just ignore him because I do not want to regret. But when I ask what he's been doing and he replies "hanging out with Kim" it just kills me.
Any words of encouragement? I know I should just cut him out of my life completely, but it is so hard. I loved and still love him so much.
Re:Confused devochic: Thanks broken. Its funny, I just came back to delete the post. I realized it wasn't worth thinking about. Why am I confused. Has he not proven his choice over and over. It hurts, but I am blessed because it tells me how he feels. He has made his choices and his actions have spoken louder than words. I love him and he will be in my heart for many years, but I must not think of the what ifs unless directly asked and followed with changes and unrevokable proof. Thank you for the reinforcement.
Re:Confused sadinct: I am of the opinion lately that I am no one's second choice. Neither are you. Don't let him hurt you again and again- you deserve much better, as do all of us who have found friendship and support here.
Stay strong!
Doug
